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Hi!

My boyfriend broke up with me ten days ago. This is my NC day 8. The main problem with our relationship was, that I have kids and he’s not ready to settle down and stop partying every weekend etc. I know he loves me and he was devastated about the break up too, but he felt like he had no choice. He wanted to stay friends but I decided to start no contact. As we were chatting on fb daily, I told him briefly that I need some distance and won’t be in touch for a while. I also told him not to send me any messages. Yesterday I had to admit to myself that I was obsessing over him. I was checking his fb every few hours and going through old pictures he has there on fb. So, I deleted him on facebook. Now I’m really worried that I’m sending him the wrong message by unfriending. I know he wants to stay in touch so maybe he now thinks that I’m never going to contact him again?

We only dated for about seven months and maybe half of the time was really painful for me. He was spending his weekends with friends, drinking and having fun. He was struggling with the idea that I have kids and what is the future going to be like. He told me that he just wasn’t ready. Am I wasting my time here? Should I just move on? If I decide to move on, should I still hold on to the 30 days no contact period? Can we ever be friends as I love him and miss him?

I don’t know. I’m really confused. I’m really disappointed for letting him treat me badly (not having enough time for me etc.) and that he gave me the wrong impression at first. He was really eager to meet my kids and we had a great time when we were together. Now my kids are also confused because he just left.

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