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So an update…
My ex deleted my family and I off facebook yesterday. Usually, I would react, but I maintained my cool and I did not react. I did not text her; just casually went on with my life like I didn’t care.
So a few hours later, she sent me this text, “Can you come over?” I did not go over. She then told me “I love you.” I still did not go over.
What is happening?
Hey there, I feel like I have to respond because I am going through the same thing. Your ex is doing the same thing to you and mine is doing to me. I think we represent security to them. In the event that something else does not work out they want us around as back up. It hurts, but this is probably what is happening. For example, my ex told me she was in love with me a few days ago. We hung out almost all of last week. She asked me to start over. Yesterday she told me that she was in love with someone else. I told her to leave me alone – not to text me or call me and to respect my privacy. She then proceeded to tell me that I was her best friend and sent me a half naked picture. I told her to stop and said goodbye. She then deleted me off facebook and now I just got a text from her that says, “Can you come over?” This is the push pull scenario. She wants me to chase her and now that I am avoiding her she’s pissed. I think the same thing might be happening to you. Be strong and don’t give in. It might be the only way for them to realize what they had.
Rihanna,
Thank you so much for responding and sharing your story with me. Though hard, it really helped me put things into perspective. I cannot keep this toxic relationship in my life. As such, last night when she told me that she was in love with someone else, I sent her a no contact text. I asked her to respect my privacy and for her not to text or call me anymore so that I can move on with my life. She responded with a sad face and said, “but you’re my best friend.” If I were her best friend, she would treat me as such with love and respect. Also, she must be confused because she wants to keep me in her life and I don’t want the roller coaster ride anymore. Again, she kept texting me and then sent me a half naked picture of her. I told her to stop and said good bye to her. She has not responded since, but somehow, I feel like I have not heard the end of her. I hope you are doing well and happy now.
