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JeanValins, thank you!
Everyone else reading this topic, input is always welcome. Many people can benefit from this. 🙂
Feels like a bribe haha. It’s a nice idea! However I don’t think it will work because that even more looks like having an ulterior motive.
No rs anymore of course, but she blocked/removed all ways of contact. It’s was normal rs. For details I have an older topic.
Thank you for the quick reply!
Forgot to tell but a while after the letter I sent an e-mail with some fun/interest and positive thing about myself. Needless to say, no response.
I find it very hard to come up with a good short e-mail (to be send in a few weeks).
You list some nice topics! But it feels strange for me to talk about those. I feel like you can smell the ulterior motive.The aftermath. But it’s mostly normal.
The best thing would have been to have zero contact, but it’s hard.
So to life up to yourself, do it now.
And trust me big time. In the end you’ll be happy you didn’t do contact anymore, because you’ll understand it’s totally worthless at this moment.You have to stop looking at the relationship stuff until you can handle it. Stop now.
Also if you want any chance to get him back (which will sound pretty ridiculous to the outside world) stop any contact for at least 30 days as the site says.
I think too that mentioning the anniversary is a sign of a chance to get back together. At least he is not fully over you.
So you have texted pretty much lately?
I would go on a date then. But you have to play it really well.Follow the program. So no contact for quite some time. Give him time and space. Meanwhile really improve yourself. You already listed some bad behavior. You might attract him if you fix that.
Also ask yourself why you play games with him. This can be your subconscious telling you he isn’t the one for you, but you very likely are too afraid to live as a single. In fact, you never lived as a single if you’ve been with him since age 16.
Fully no contact. I assume she is just back from abroad. She will cool down and think everything over.
Some people believe that in a relationship there is just one rule: don’t cheat. But they forgot that this happens gradually. They find themselves so strong and loyal. At the same time they believe that not going out (dancing, bar etc) alone is ‘taking away their freedom.’ And from there on we can guess what can happen.
Haha maybe we should open up a new thread for this discussion.
Maybe the answer lies more in the opposite.
She got too much freedom, thereby widening her view on freedom to an extend of which she knew is unable to have in a relationship while at the same time believing she really needs it and has the right as ‘independent woman (media blabla)’ to have it.
Maybe keeping the line more short after a while is a better idea. I sure know I will in my next relationship. I’ll tell her early that once in a relationship some thing shouldn’t be done without each other anymore.
Nothing against you personally, but why would you ever agree with your girl going to work at a party island in a bar… Some things are just to much if you ask me…
Okay. Yes do no contact and follow every other instruction of the frontpage. There is a good chance if you give her space and time now!
And if she is dating someone else or you are afraid she is going to sleep around, read this article about getting your ex girlfriend back when she is dating another guy.
