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I don’t know what exactly she feels for me.. she broke up because of constant fights & lack of trust between us saying me she don’t feel the love anymore..& then the things got worst between us..
I went to No contact & reached out..She said she missed me & still got some feelings in her heart for me somewhere..
But I told her that I was not comfortable with bieng friends & she clearly put her defenses up saying we can’t get back ever.
I’m now confused whether I should leave her alone to forget bad things.I really felt uncomfortable in the friend zone.. May be because I wanted us to get back together soon..I was taking it slow but I never felt comfortable in that.
its been a week since we contacted each other..Should I text her now with a sorry for how I reacted?
sincerely saying,The friend zone is a much more difficult phase to handle than No contact phase.. 🙁I took a No contact for about 40 Days before Contacting her & We were friends from about 3 Months..Its a difficult situation for me now. I can’t figure out whether I should forget about her & move on with my life now or Go for No Contact again… Reaching out this time after a No contact is going to be difficult & will show me needy when she has clearly told me to move on.
I personally was not looking to contact my Ex after she asked me for space yesterday..Because I could feel that the history will get repeated if I contact her now..The same thing happened earlier..she asked for space but I didn’t give her the time & pushed her away.. I accept that when a girl asks for space our mind always have thoughts that we should clearly ask her what exactly she wants.. what exactly she feels toward us.
But all this is going to ruin everything.. we can’t force her to accept us.. I agree with maria.. if she feels a change she’ll eventually invite you in her life..
I can only suggest you to keep calm & keep on improving urself..Don’t contact her yourself right now she’ll definetly contact you.
Don’t forget to use social media to your advantage.. Facebook & watsapp helped me a lot to show her I’m moving on & my life is changing..
like yesterday when my ex asked for space.. after some hours I changed my Profile picture & updated a positive & subtle status.. She couldn’t resist herself & texted.
These small things really help to show her silently that you are no longer a mess.
Thanks to kevin for all these tips.But on the other side,I don’t know if I’m doing it right.. I think I’ll stuck in friendszone forever.
she’s filling her missing part by remaining friends.
and if Go again for NC again.. She’ll definetly consider moving on.. There can’t be grey spots then… either there’ll be white or black.and kellanved, There was No cheating from both sides. But we used to have constant fights which ultimately led to breakup.. she says she fears if same thing can happen again & she don’t want to hurt me & herself again because she already feel guilty for what she did.
Hey!! Thanx for your valuable comments!!
I think my ex is a little crazy.. she asked me for a space yesterday & today she texted me again.. lol..
she saw my watsapp status & then texted me..
I didn’t ask her first why she’s texting when she needs space but after some normal conversation I asked her…
she replied that she couldn’t resist herself..
I then slowly made her clear that I’m ok with bieng friends & not looking for relationship right now..She said she assumed me wrong that I was not comfortable with the friendszone which made her confused as she was not ready too.. & then our conversation went for hours again.I can only come to a conclusion that she wants to take things slowly not in a hurry..
but her words that she’ll come to me with a decision later are making ne confuse.. How can she finally make a decision to get back without bieng in communication.. The decision may be moving on & in that case she’ll not be contacting me at all. Should I then contact her myself?
How long I’ll keep waiting for her text or call..?
That’s so confusing..Hey A.z,
I sent the letter.
she replied to me & I kept the Conversation short.
Now she’s texting me daily by some silly excuses & trying to talk to me.
she even texted one of our common friend that she misses me a lot. How should I proceed further now?Ok.. I’ll delete that Part.. Should I write any specifics while going for apology? Because I did too much fighting,bad words even the threatning…
Hey a.z,
I’m preparing a letter to send her.. I have created a thread to get the sugesstions.It’ll be great if you can advice anything as you have already read about my situation.
I have already deleted her pictures & phone no. from my phone & I have unfollowed her from facebook..
I used to constantly check her facebook profile in the beginning for the first 2 weeks.. but now I’m really in control from past 10-12 days.
I have my concentration back on studies not as much earlier it used to be but definetly.One thing I want to ask is that how much facebook should I use to show her I’m happy? I know she keeps checking my profile. Kevin’s email series suggested do’s & dont’s but I wanna know how much..
I post some positive & funny statuses after a day or two. & keep my profile pic changing in a week. I wonder if I’m overdoing it..
I also Read ryan rivers relationship rewind kevin suggested. Its really helpful in understanding each our situation.
I’m in death’s door & I don’t think the letter given in that suits my situation. although some tips for the letter given by kevin in the emails seems better suited to my situation. I just want to ask if I can send the letter (when i’ll be ready)on watsapp or through text msg as its difficult for me to send her after writing on a paper.Thanx a lot.. A.z
Its been 25 days since I talked to her & I feel a lot better now..life is getting back on track again. But I think I’ll do No contact for atleast 2 more weeks. Because from the 4th week itself her exams are approaching so she’ll get busy at that time.
Here is the link to my earlier post about what actually happened between us…I sometimes think I should give up…But if you can advice anything more about the situation & approach it’ll be good.
