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Thank you for your reply, and the answer is yes, I did one month of NC. She is ignoring me, as if we never were together. I mean, we ended up in good terms, I respected her decision. And all of a sudden is like I never existed for her, like those 8 years never happened. I just can’t let more time pass, I feel like I’m helping her move on instead of getting closer to her.
It’s frustrating.Divjun,
Thank you for your words.
I really hope she at least give me a chance to talk to her, so I can show her that I can be the man of her life, and that we can overcome any obstacle together. But as you said, I have to start with myself.
For now, i’ll keep giving her her space. I just hope is not too late for me.Divjun,
I am going out, I just can’t enjoy it. And she actually unfriended me from every single social network. It’s actually my friends who tell me what she’s doing :/ (she kept my friends and my family in facebook).
I know that I have to wait, but it’s really hard since I know how she is (stubborn, she won’t contact me even if she wanted to). Even harder the fact that she is a very strong woman, and very independent. That’s why I have my doubts on this NC rule, because I might be helping her moving on without making an effort in talking to her and figuring things out. I might be making it easier for her you know?
I dont know if this NC rule will help my situation.Divjun,
You’re one step closer to a reconciliation, he just has to clear his mind and accept what he did wrong. And not only that, he has to be eilling to change that so he can be with you. Same with you. But you’re on the right path š
Divjun,
There is always two persons in a relationship, and if the two persons dont work together, the relationship fails. Maybe as you said he is at fault, but we gotta take responsibility for our actions. What happened? What did I do to contribute to this break up? How could i handle it in a better way?
You have at least heard from him, and he’s told you that he still loves you, and that’s great news because you at least have that information to keep your hopes up. It’s just a matter of patience, and both of you taking the responsibility of your actions in a mature way, so you guys can get back together and enjoy a healthy relationship.
I wish I knew from my exgirlfriend.
Best of luck!!!!It’s been 10 days since I talked to her/broke up. 10 awful days, and it seems like it’s been a year now.
It hurts deeply in my heart. I am really trying to go out and enjoy, but I just can’t forget about her. Every single thing reminds me of her. And when I come back home, and see that she posts pictures with her “girl friend” where she looks super happy, showing her affection in a weird way, saying things like: “i’m all yours”, “love at first sight”, it makes me feel confused about her. And it’s like our relationship never happened. It makes me feel depressed.
I am really trying, but there’s always something that brings me down, and it hurts me that she’s like a totally new person, a person that I don’t recognize. š
I need support to get through this.Thank you.
Divjun,
I know what you’re going through, and I am learning that we have to learn not to expect anything from them. We can try to make ourselves better human beings, and learn from our mistakes. And if they truly give us another chance, we have to take it seriously, and recognize the bad behaviors and put them in the thrash. That’s only if they truly want to give it another chance. And i deeply wish this is your case!
Hi Nick thanks for your response.
It’s hard to understand how from one day to another you can feel just fine in a situation like this. Did you feel sad, did you miss your friend at least a bit? Did you think about your friend? Those are the questions i’m asking myself right now. I wonder if she misses me, if she at least thinks about me. I know that my behavior was wrong and led to our break up, but she’s gotta feel something.
I am gonna try to win her back and make her fell in love with me again, but as of now I have no idea if she’s gonna at least answer my messages when the NC period ends.
It’s frustrating, but I’m willing to fight for her, and fix the behavior that caused the break up.
But if she doesn’t respond, there’s nothing I can do. šDivjun,
As of now, almost 2 weeks of NC she seems pretty ok being by herself. I’m kind of confused, 7 years and all of a sudden you don’t feel nothing for the person who was with you š
Divjun,
I think you have to be patient here. He told you that he still loves you, and that he can’t live without you. Just wait a little bit for the water to clear out.
Mike- cerati
Thank you divjun,
I’ll try and relax, while I giver her and myself some time! Once the NC period is over, how should I contact her? What should I say ???
You think a little gift/detail is a good idea? (Brownies delivered to her job with a note)?Thank you in advance!
Thank you!!!
Update: itās been a week and a couple of days of NC. Some friend of mine that has her as a friend on facebook and instagram says that sheās going out a lot lately with this āgirlfriendā that she had while we were still together (it was more of an acquaintance than a friend). So now they are going out at least 3 times a week, and it seems that they became beat friends, and my friend says that they use phrases like ā i love you baby, date with my baby, youāre so adorable I love you, itās always date night with you baby, and that they even said something like there are no word to describe the feeling of touching youā¦no smiley emoticons, no ā hahahaā,
I dont know itās just weird. Sheās never been like that in the past (7years). She was always reserved with what she said, both in person and in social media. HELP PLEASE!!!! Should i still follow the plan, or should I assume they are a couple!!!! According to a friend of mine, the other girl is not gay, but iām confused and terrified of the idea. I feel down and confused, it hurts even more now!HELP PLEASE!!!!
Update: it’s been a week and a couple of days of NC. Some friend of mine that has her as a friend on facebook and instagram says that she’s going out a lot lately with this “girlfriend” that she had while we were still together (it was more of an acquaintance than a friend). So now they are going out at least 3 times a week, and it seems that they became beat friends, and my friend says that they use phrases like ” i love you baby, date with my baby, you’re so adorable I love you, it’s always date night with you baby, and that they even said something like there are no word to describe the feeling of touching you…no smiley emoticons, no ” hahaha”,
I dont know it’s just weird. She’s never been like that in the past (7years). She was always reserved with what she said, both in person and in social media. HELP PLEASE!!!! Should i still follow the plan, or should I assume they are a couple!!!! According to a friend of mine, the other girl is not gay, but i’m confused and terrified of the idea. I feel down again!HELP PLEASE!!!!
Bguarino,
Thanks for your response.
Definitely, i am giving her time and space for now. I plan to contact her after 30 days.
And i dont know about the unfriend and deleting me from facebook, i guess it’s normal if she wants to be alone. It’s not cool to be apart and still be looking at your profile and pictures(but it kinda took me by surprise). And i did not do anything to piss her off, we actually talked and ended in good terms.
