[MiCi]

Hi everyone, hope all of you doing well and remain in positive hope.
Just to update what happened from my last post.
Finally, he came around and we talked after 1 week of NC – he wanted to end our relationship. He doesnt want to go through this culteral shock again and it will be best for both of us. He even said if we were married then he wanted to divorce..
I didnt expect he was going to give up so easily! It’s not like we lie to each other or cheat on each other like most break-up cases. Anyway, he brought back my stuff but keep some which were my gifts.
I knew this was coming.
I didnt beg, plead but talked him through that year. Our conversation eventually came to the end. Then it just happened that I reminded him no matter where he is going to settle in the world. I will move, our kids will move, and MiCi (my cat) will move too. Said I told my mom and this will happen.
He looked at me surprisingly and said why didnt I told him that before.
I said I did but he was already pulling away and I didnt want to disrespect his ‘time’. He suddenly kissed me and said he will fight for our relationship but he needs to talk to his brother and he needs more time. I said I understand so I am now giving him another time to rewind.
I dont know how this going to turn out later, but I have this smallest hope that
things will work out slowly.
Shall I apply NC? But we discussed we didnt have to do that.
So we text but keep it distant and nothing personal.
He said he needs few days, but my feeling says he is going to take longer.
I will continue to focus on myself. I already lost 6kgs weight and picked up new hobby, changed hair style and color. Some positive response has been recognised!
I really need this to work out and hopefully we can continue our relationship and pick ourselves up from where we left.
I truely hope that we will get back by Christmas!

Anyone has this experience? Please share!

[MiCi]

Thanks, Ill take all your advice. I started NC for 3 days now. As Im getting to feel better, sometimes quiet at night I couldnt help to wonder the result. He texted me telling everything what he did for the day, and I didnt reply … It’s hard and i thought of replying in the cold same way he did, but whats the point.
That will get me back to fall in pain again. What says you?

[MiCi]

Thank you for giving me some advices, cjo3. I really have a hope but I will try to move on as well. Do you think i can still texting his mom, like i always do or that has to be stopped too? He is hanging out with his best friend and talked a lot to him. I have a thought of contacting his friend and talk to him to get some more idea of what my bf is thinking, but im afraid that will even push my bf to break up with me completely.
It is not easy this 30 days, what did i do so wrong to deserve this punishment from him…?

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