[surferdude]

Thank you for your support Patricia12 too, you helped me through a very difficult time
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[surferdude]

Hi Patricia12, i’m unsure about it all, she seemed very upset when we met, she has had a falling our with one of her friends too, i’m a bit worried about her mental state which has put doubts in my mind about it all.

She has messaged me a couple of times in the past week, one to say she missed me, I messaged her back saying if you want to talk i’m here, but then the next day she said she just wanted to be friends – I think for now i’m just going to assume the relationship is over – if she messages me and talks about a reconciliation, then ill talk about it from there at a later date.

I did meet someone else for lunch who seems nice – she’s just had a break up too so I might just meet her for one or two fun dates, I explained that I just want to have fun and not start anything serious right now and she was cool with that – taking it really slow and see what happens. My ex seems all over the place and I I’d rather try and move forward than wait around for a reconciliation that might or might not happen.

[surferdude]

Thank you Patricia12 for your advice – I just have acted in a needy and dependant manner (and know she has also been online) and wanted to break that pattern of behaviour and demonstrate some strength and independence when I spoke to her the other day – I’m feeling heaps better and can now handle tomorrow going either way.

[surferdude]

*must not*

[surferdude]

Thanks heaps for your support Paul33, yes I’m negotiating a big contract for my business next week, but am planning a weeks vacation beforehand – that should help – must break NC – just need to chant that over and over….

[surferdude]

I just put all her stuff she left at my house in a box out in the garage, as an attempt to purge any reminder of her from my house – ill invite her to come and get her things after 30 days NC. Shed a few tears while doing so, so I’m definitely not ready atm….

[surferdude]

Hi there,

I split with my gf of 3 years on Aug 27th & fb messages one of her friends on day 16, she heard about it and emailed me & said the same thing.

Now I’m on day 4 and shooting for 30 days, I think it’s best not to reply as this will only make it worse I love my ex so much but I think I have to get to 30 days before I can contact her again, partially to re wire my brain away from this now unrequited love & partially to give her space so she might miss me & give me another chance.

If you like, we can keep each other posted on a day by day basis & hopefully make it through NC together?

[surferdude]

Hi Crystalbear,

I too failed at nc on day 17 – now I’m back to square one. Determined to make it to 30 days as it just made me feel worse :-(. Ill keep you posted on my updates and just know that you’re not alone….

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