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The thought of losing someone is always devastating, completely draining and I speak of own experience. Maybe you should just accept that he’s “gone” now. I think you should try to really show how much you care for him and that you’ve realized your mistakes. You could do this soon or either waiting a month or so. You do this with a somewhat romantic gesture but still without saying “I’m desperate and I want you back”. Maybe through a letter or something! But if you don’t feel that that will work you should just move on, for now. I don’t mean that you should forget him or something! Everything you’re doing is to get him back! But this could be necessary, and you would do anything for him, right? 🙂 He won’t find someone that will truly replace you and you are after all the mother of his children. So let time pass and get in touch when it’s appropriate to then establish a friendship and do the RR thing, if you’ve read that. Best of luck to you, everything will be fine 🙂
He loves you too! If he talks to someone else it’s just for trying to move on! But you two has been together for a long time and do you really think he can just find someone like that and forget about you? Don’t be silly 😉 I’d say that you’ll get him back even faster if he starts dating, because he will really fast realize how stupid it was to start dating and he will be the one coming back to you. Just let some time go, you know best for how long. If you’ve never been apart for more than a week, a month will do wonders 🙂 And then take contact in the appropriate way, no begging or emotions, just a happy, caring and charming you! Continue being friends and meet up eventually, you’ll fall in love again and your bond will be so much stronger than it was last time. During this break, do something you enjoy! Do you have any hobbies? 🙂
Don’t make any efforts of contacting, but if it’s absolutely necessary to meet him due to the kids, just act like you’re not in need of making any efforts to win him back. He’ll start to wonder what happened and he’ll probably start thinking “that’s MY girl! I need her back!” 🙂
I’m really unsure of what approach to chose… I feel that if I go for being friends I create such a complicated scenario instead of just having a NC and then getting back to the bliss and so on. I’m reading relationship rewind right now. I’ve posted a new thread were I’m wondering about which way to go, I have two alternatives as I view it… Please check it out
Thanks to both of you! It’s great to have some good advice 🙂 I actually bumped in to her just now and me knees got weak and I had this burning feeling in my legs and it felt like i was going to fall:/ Well, she made a somewhat friendly expression in her face to greet me and we said “hi”.
I think I have control and I could do anything that would be best for my situation, so what’s your opinion? 🙂
Like people have said, he probaby acts that way to protect himself. One thing I’ve thought of is that people gets really immature by love, they’ll become stubborn, childish and simply weird. So just ride it out and try not to worry to much of his actions, the weirder he is the more he’s struggling without you 🙂
Mema, I will have a look at your situation 🙂
So relationship rewind is basically how you “rewind” everything and to stuff that triggers her to feel in love with me etc? I was thinking, maybe I should let a month pass and then start this relationship rewind, or am I crazy?
Your situation is surely chaotic and you won’t solve anything from here. You need to get away from him and start a new life, we’re not just talking a NC but really a new chapter in your life. You’re strong and you can do this, he will come back so don’t worry. Figure out what went wrong between you two and totally ignore him. It should be a constant state of meditation; to think, relax and grow if you understand what I’m saying:) You’re in a really messy situation right now and you just need to trust yourself and realize that you can do this! Make him understand that he’s made the mistake of his life. But first you need to believe that as well, good luck! 🙂
