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Thank you for sharing!! It gives us hope that there is a chance. Ive been feeling bad that the longer time goes on the less likely it is that we will get back together, but your story makes me think the opposite!
I looked through your previous topics, you said you started NC in August – was that right after the break up? Did you only do 1 round of NC?
Thank you both for the kind words. I will try and express my feelings in healthier ways. If that doesnt work I may seek a therapist. I want to enjoy life..its just so hard when you know youve lost someone so important to you. I wanted to be with him the rest of my life and I would have done anything on earth for him.
I really hope I can get him back. We were always laughing and having fun together, I was kind and caring. I treated him like gold.
Yes it is weird for a guy that age not wanting to do anything. It’s very odd. It makes me think that they don’t have a strong relationship.
It sounds like she isn’t serious about this guy. I do think it’s a rebound. Maybe they aren’t doing anything because she doesn’t feel comfortable. Maybe it’s because she does want you back and doesn’t want to go too far with anyone else?
I guess the reason I said I don’t know myself anymore is not because I couldn’t be myself without him it’s because everything I thought I knew about love is a lie.
And I did try hard to be with him because he said I meant the world to him, he needed me, loved my more than anything..but wouldn’t live with me and wouldn’t hang out with me more than 2-3 times a week
Thank you for your advice. I understand that I did get wrapped up in being with him.. but we were so happy together. I always tried to give him his space that he said he waned ..I don’t think I was clingy I think I was normal for a gf. But its like since all of this has ended its like everything I thought I knew about love has gone out the window. I always thought if you tried hard enough and gave enough things would work out. I did sooo many nice things for him alllll the time simply because I was in love and that’s what I thought you should do. I cared about him more than myself. Any time we got in a fight or disagreement he would ignore me.. sometimes for days. I was always patient and tried to work it out. His family loved me, we had the same friends. Its like even though I gave my all… its still my fault he left me. It makes me not want to be with anyone ever again. I do want him back obviously.
And I don’t get it! I see all these other couples moving in together, getting engaged, married and they haven’t even been together as long as we had. He always said I was perfect for him. So what did I do wrong? Its like I thought being in a relationship for 5 years meant something and when you have a deep connection like that you try to be with that person and build a life with them.
Just to add this: I was on here under a different username… someone I know found out about it and I had to have kevin delete it. Background:
ex and I 24, 25 years old, had a good relationship, I was kind/caring/fun, he got a job and moved abroad to Europe in December (he will be there for 2 years), said he didn’t want to be with anyone bc he wants to do it on his own (when originally he said he wanted us to be together). We were together 5 years and much in love. I helped him through some of the hardest times in his life… and I was always so good to him. After the break up I was messed up..but was starting to get better.. and now its like all out the window.
