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So my long distance girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me two weeks ago out of the blue. I recently accepted a job in her same city and would be moving near her for the first time in two years. She originally moved away in the first place.

She explained that she doesn’t see a fit with me. My negativity and lack of emotion through the career change discussions drove a divide (5 to 6 months ago she started feeling this way). She felt I didn’t love her and wasn’t committed. I just wanted to consider all possible solutions including her moving to me.

We talked engagement all the time and she never ever told me anything was wrong except very subtle hints. But after these hints she should tell me I was her soulmate and perfect.

Two months ago she started her own business which focuses highly on motivational speaking. She realized then that we might have personality differences. I told her that her business excites me, even though I was skeptical at first. I’ve always been more conservative and patient. She jumps into things 100% and closes other things out.

I’m afraid she through the baby out with the bath water. She is incredibly mentally strong and says her gut says break it off and that she never is wrong and doesn’t look back.

I spent two weeks spilling my heart out and she would talk for hours with me. She says she loves me so much and doesn’t want to stop talking. She said I am her best friend and can’t live without me in her life. However she said we don’t fit each other and my neglect caused to much damage. She loves the way I am emotionally pouring out my heart but feels this isn’t the true me. She also told me not to move to her same city. Ouch. I have to now turn dow n a job that I already accepted. After so much running in circles I decided to go no contact. I told her not to reach out ever, unless she understood the implications (probably error) and I’m now on day 3.

Perspective anyone?

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