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Just to build on what AndyK said – time and space are the key here. Lease situations while challenging can almost always be figured out – either through subletting, or negotiating with the landlord to break the lease. You guys should have some time apart. Its very challenging to process all those negative emotions when you see each other regularly and keep in contact every day.
Wishing you the best of luck!
Funny enough, I have a similar situation, but on opposite ends – I’m the one who did the cheating and want her back. Its a little different as I was still dating someone when I met her and fell in love. She’s likely going through all the same emotions you are and has told me its likely not a good idea to try anything further.
I can tell you that I believe people can change. If you feel that she has genuinely made a mistake and has taken actions to improve herself chances are pretty good she won’t ever do it again. Mistakes don’t define who people are, its how we deal with the aftermath that does. I’m speaking from experience – having been on both sides of the fence.
The biggest question you need to ask yourself is whether or not you want to give her another chance. Trust, like love, is a choice sometimes. It will be a lot of work, but if you want it, you will be able to put this behind you and move forward in the relationship. Do you know why she cheated? Was she unhappy? Can you resolve the underlying issues that lead to it in the first place? Do you feel she is worth it?
There’s nothing humiliating about giving someone a second chance. I think its actually a lot harder than saying f* it and moving on.
Just my two cents.
