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I think they view us as damaged property maybe? People they love, but who keep hurting them due to their own problems. On a logical level they think this makes us incompatible. But inside, we know we can change.
I think it can be undone,given time,definitely. But in my case, the parents are involved and would probably disown her if she ever chose to speak with me again.
How are you feeling today?
I see, probably for the best. I think if you let contact go on between both, then it could become stale. So this definitely plays to your favour.
I am finding today really hard, probably because I hears our song earlier and cannot get it out of my head now. I am so scared that the damage is too much now. I regret so much.
Thank you Caz. I think we can both do this. We have both made mistakes. And if this is true love, we are due this suffering, so that we can learn from our mistakes and make them happy.
Yes. Maybe, and then for the past 4 months, I have been constantly texting her every day. So bad. The other guy was pestering her before. I still can’t believe it.
She ended it, as she thought we would not work – because she would move to Australia, then came the truth that the picture with me and the other girl ruined everything and hurt her so much. We then decided to work on our relationship.
The next day I log into facebook from another account, to see if she did delete facebook as she claimed. But no, she had blocked me, added that guy – and I found his relationship status to with my girlfriend. She also had a happy picture of her and a dog – an inside joke they shared. It was so messed up. Then I heard the truth from the parents about them making her. I hear her hyperventilating saying she didn’t even want to see him, and that her parents made her. She tells me she is angry I cheated, but understood – but needed space. Then it just went so downhill.
She loved me so much, that at the beginning, she couldn’t even save my number to her phone, as she was scared I would leave her. She was petrified I would leave. And we were so in love. I just cannot reconcile her from what she was, to what she is now 🙁
The only thing which I could see of her facebook, from another account (as she blocked me) was a sad face, made public (the day when she couldn’t face seeing me for closure) and a picture of her with her hand in front of the camera, instead of her usual happy image. It was like that for 2 months. Now, both are gone. Everything else is on lockdown.
My ex hasn’t spoken to me since 8th October. I have harassed her since, to get a response. She just ignores me 🙁
No, I wouldn’t want it out of pity. But I do feel that she was forced to try and get over me. She told me at the time that she would work constantly, and then lock herself in her room to get over me. But I fear she has taken her parents advice and started a relationship with this other guy, like I meant nothing.
I cheated to, but I made a point of never seeing her again, and I made my ex aware of this. I just don’t know why she wanted to hurt me so much.
I was abusive as well, but only after we split. I threatened suicide twice, and pretended to be someone else to pretend I was in hospital – just to get a response. I was so desperate for a response. I called her names, said horrible things, made things up, text her every second of the day. It hurts so much to think about. She was so crazy in the relationship, but I did not mind.
I suggested splitting up a week before we did, but just as a trial – and she cried, hyperventilated and complained of chest pains. The next week, she wants to split – two days after agreeing to take her parents’ ‘advice’ of dumping me and choosing another. It hurts so much to think of it all. She had to force herself to get over me.
She told me that I hurt her so much, that she didn’t want to invest anymore – because she was scared of how much more she could get hurt. Jeez, I was going to fix so many things. If only the parents did not interfere 🙁
Yes, I did read it. I believe anything is possible. Sometimes it feels remote though. I have faith time can heal – but I think I may be a special exception. She may be pleased I am gone. I was harassing her.
I have basically harrassed her and been the ex from hell. I was crazy. I don’t know if I can go back.
I feel the same. But we are both in new territory. Time heals a lot. It’s easy to think we have no significance, but trust me – they still think about us.
I think you are in a stronger position than me. Just be strong. I think you will get there.
Well, he was very sensitive when you lashed out. You’ve been through cancer together. I could imagine that he was just feeling really sad in how you were acting. It may have broke his heart that you were acting that way. That is why it is important to become that person he fell in love with.
