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Caz, that sounds like such a nice letter. I think you will get positive results from it. And thanks, I don’t think I could get through this without you either.
I am not sure about my ex. She has a replacement now – fully supported by her parents and she seems to like him 🙁 I think I would have been ok, if the breakup wasn’t so screwed up. She still loves me, and her parents made her. But on the other hands, she lied to me and blocked me from facebook so that she could show her new relationship status with this other guy she had only just added – apparently it was only a joke, as he is ‘cocky’ …so I had to split up, knowing her parents made her, and also the fact that she had seen this guy and probably still seeing him.. Gah, sorry, I still cannot get my head around it 🙁 From someone who is so jealous and in love with me, to someone who is completely cold.
Jean, I think you are right, 30 days sometimes isn’t enough and it is all relative. It is good that you are working out. You need to appear to be that indifferent and carefree guy you were before…then she will realise you are still that same guy she fell in love with.
Jean, keep strong. The key thing is that she still loves you. She needs to miss you, so she has an opportunity to regret her decision. Become the prize and chased. You need to recover. If there is anything I have learned, it’s to not react to what she is doing.
I think she will contact you, if not – write a magic letter. Our exes will be back. We can all do it!
Yes, of course. I just feel so sad and empty sometimes. But I have to keep positive. Two more days and we will be on two weeks! We are doing all the correct things.
I have been thinking about my magic letter. I have been thinking of buying quality letter paper. Although I still do not know what the wording shall be. I go on holiday in April with some friends, I think I will then start to think about the letter.
How about yourself?
Thanks Kramer, let’s hope it does, although it is hard to believe at this moment.
Caz, I am pleased you enjoyed your date. And yes, this void is difficult to cope with. I just feel hopeless at the moment. I feel that she must be so happy to be rid of me and relieved that I no longer text her constantly with the most despicable and off-putting behaviour.
I feel lonely, I miss her so much. We had difficult times when apart from eachother. But every time we were together, things would always be perfect and blissful. I was so shocked when she wanted to end things, and then it was like she wanted me out of her life forever. When I found out what happened – she told me to never speak to her again and go away. That was even before she found out about my cheating. Obviously, she was in an emotional state at the time and eventually turned off her phone.
But that is how it feels, that it was her plan to completely erase me from her life.
Hey Caz, how did your date go?
My date was really good, she was very beautiful and funny. But wow, when I came back on the train I went to a dark place. My phone ran out of battery and then I felt that void again, from not having my ex, and started thinking about how everything is so messed up. And then on the way back home I went the same route via the tube that me and my ex used to take – it brought all the memories back and I felt so sad.
The dates are good, but there is always a void. I think if I did start seeing anyone, I would take things very slowly. I do not want a rebound, which could hurt anyone else. I miss my ex so much right now though and feel so sad.
I hope you are feeling better.
My plan is to enjoy the date today and have a good time. I think I feel good also because I know she is back know home in her country. Her parents have probably told her what a great decision she made by ending things and choosing another – but she probably resents it.
I also know she is not with him. I worry so much when I think they may get be in bed together. It’s what we used to do and we had such a close bond 🙁
But I think we have to be mysterious to then now and make them wonder what happened to us. It starts with curiosity. What is your plan for today?
I am so confident that she will have feelings for me if we regain contact. I am sure things will be the same for you when you come back!
I do feel bad that she could not give me closure though. She could not meet up with me afterwards, so that we could discuss things. It would have been so much easier.
I have the same fear, that she is happy I an gone. But we had special moments with them that cannot be replaced. As I said. They did not fall out of love with us, so we are in a good position.
We will get our exes back Caz. Have faith. They are human, they will miss us when we go away.
He won’t forget. People value things that do not come easily. By keeping no contact, our value rises.
Thanks! Don’t get me wrong, I will still have weak days, but I feel so much better than I did before.
Exactly, and they did not fall out of love with us – we drove them away and circumstances dictated the rest.
Three days until it’s two weeks! I have done a number of things, I have lessened facebook privacy, so that she can see friends and know I deleted the girl I cheated on her with. But I have also protected all of my tweets, as I know she used to look at them.
They do say that it needs to feel like you have stopped existing during NC. But I realise I have to build up that trust too – so that she knows I deleted the girl and that I am not adding other random girls.
Feeling stronger. Plus, good luck with your date today!
I also have a date tomorrow! So fingers crossed. I am open minded, but I do realise that my ex and I did have a special bond and chemistry together.
I just hope she speaks to me again. I do hope for this so much.
Bit I think our dark days are over and that we are moving forward to a position where we can make them happy again!
We are on day 10! How do you feel?
Today, I am a lot better. I am thinking of the harm I can do with angry words, but also taking her down from the pedestal and realising how insecure and badly she treated me.
Also, I am looking for signs that tensions may have thawed, including on Facebook, such as her unblocking me – or even stating she is in a relationship with the other guy with no fear or repercussions from me.
I think it is a good thing if she is still with him, as the only reason behind it was m. And the only reason they are probably still together is due to my behaviour. But rebounds mostly end, so we will see.
Thanks, your words mean so much to me 🙂 Day 10 tomorrow! Only 2 more periods like this and we are onto 30!
