[kalicooldude]

Be Patient.Slow approach and no need to get angry/frustrated/confused.Take very slow and be caring not cocky.

Otherwise you will loose her,my two cents.

[kalicooldude]

btw I had daughter with my ex wife not my g/f,i am dating my ex g/f after my divorce and its been 4 years.

[kalicooldude]

@ Ly88

Be patient and take things very slowly.Also sometimes if he got broken up bad with relationship he might have decided to move away from you and the pain.If I didn’t had the daughter with my ex wife I should have also left the US and go back to my home country.
So I would say if he is still responding and you are taking it very slow you still have hope and your saying of that you will wait for 2 years does show that you really love him and I wish you the best.

NC will work and take it slow,learn from tiger ( slow and have an eye on your target)

[kalicooldude]

@ Ly88 when does he comes back from Europe ? And how long you are willing to wait for him.
As this is long distance ? Why did he break up ?
Have you done NC not 30 days atleast 60 days or above,kevin says that worst scenario it can from 2 months-6 months.

[kalicooldude]

Hi Scottie…in your case take it slow and be a good daddy,no matter what you have to go thru in the end you will see your life worth and all the pain will eventually go away.

I understand your pain very well,but be strong.

[kalicooldude]

Hi Scottie @

Update as of today.

First thank you for your kinds words and inspiration,i appreciate it.

After almost 70 days of NC…I emailed my g/f yesterday asking about her friend,who have texted me 2 weeks back for rental house.

My ex emailed me back after couple of hours giving me her number and asking me how I am doing and how are things at my end ?

I replied after couple of hours also and was very limited and said everything is going fine and I have been busy with work.

In reply to my email to her I also asked about her well being and family ?NO response received yet,it was last night so still waiting to hear from her.

Today,I am meeting in person my ex g/f best friend to show her the rental house.

Any thoughts about how to proceed ? I know I have to take it slow and be patient and slowly build up attraction and communication.

Thanks

[kalicooldude]

Just relax your mind and have less thoughts of getting back to him,take step by step and focus on other things that are important for your life…like family,friends,movies,work etc.

Be Patient and it is important.

OK ?

[kalicooldude]

@ Scottie,the question really is ” how to move forward and get ex back ” and yours is very recent(jan 15) so your chances are very high compared to me and @ Jax where it will be almost a year soon.

I don’t know how social media will affect this when other party doesn’t even care to text or call or email for 1 minute.

I am also very confused as Jax and let me tell you the truth that I have lost all hope and its been 70 days of NC and my g/f only emailed me once asking for her resume in all this 70 days of time.

I have changed myself but how do I show my changes to her ?

[kalicooldude]

Well I am in same shoes,so reallyc cant give you advice,infact I will look forward for any replies.
I am sorry and I know how it feels,mine is also close to 9/10 months and I started doing NC from Jan 13

To tell you the truth which we will eventually accept that there are very very slim chances of our ex coming back.I understand that our heart doesn’t want to accept the fact but if you do the math and time missed,in any scenario it is not a good thing that has happened.And esp getting dumped feels that it was us who were in fault.

Good luck my friend and hope someone replies here,and I am not trying to take your space here but in same shoes as you.

[kalicooldude]

1) Take rest
2) Don’t contact or pressure her for few more days even if it is 60 days
3) Don’t talk about relationship OR send any text
4) Prepare yourself for long haul
5) It is stressful phase but what else we can do.

You will fuck up if you show your desperation and need and emotional part,i did and its been a year still not back with my ex and I started my NC on Jan 13th.

Take it easy and relax your mind and don’t panic if you want to save your relationship otherwise go ahead.

[kalicooldude]

Control your emotions and reply after few hours and be normal,dont show your desperation and need,it sure will take time and a 50/50 chance.Talk to the point.

[kalicooldude]

Hi Samuel :Thanks for reply.

I don’t know how to react,my ex became distant,ignorant and negative, right after I blocked her for like 14/15 days.She was normal,sincere and happy girl for 4 years of our relationship but I had lot of my ex wife,daughter with my ex wife and anger issues.

My blocking her on my phone,actually gave her shock of lifetime & insecurity I guess. From last year she is been pretty much the same and hasn’t changed much,but I never actually did NC till Jan 13 2015

I tried actually more than you think of,it can be begging,crying,doormat,gifts,no shave,talk to her best friend,sister etc etc.

Finally I made it 63 days(today) of NC and really don’t have much clue how to talk and what about to her,all I think is of rejection and ignorance from her again.

Last week her best friend texted me to find out about rental house and also checked with me on how things are at my end which I only replied limited and never told her how I am doing ?

So there are 2 contacts in NC so I dont know it was just to open up line of communication or just checking on me if I am doing OK or just playing mind games.
Communication from ex :- 1) My g/f email on Feb 20th(Asking for resume) and 2) Her friend texted last week.( Asking for rental house )

What do you think ? I will text her best friend this weekend to get her rental house.I don’t feel comfortable texting me g/f,its very strange just to even think about it and I have never been in to this situation in my life.

[kalicooldude]

Good luck my dear and it is nice that you are not loosing hope,i wish you the very best and be positive,you will be fine.He should respond as he is lucky to have you.

[kalicooldude]

Some girls are very stubborn so they stick to there decision no matter what happens,and also during your relationship if there was all fights and you took her for granted she took it to heart and now she will push her mind very hard to not to come back in your life.

My g/f is one of them I took her for granted for 4 years and now its almost a year and she don’t want to come back.I am on 63 days of NC and only heard once from her.I have also lost all hope with my g/f though.

So for you just do NC and keep low profile and leave the relationship on god.Wait for atleast 60 days and see if she tries to be in touch with you and it will also help you know that if she still loves or care about you,if she responds may be 1/2 times that means she just cares,if not than she has moved on,if she tries more but may be 1/2 times in 30 days than she is interested.

Again all girls have different way of thinking and all relationship has different scenarios

Did she talked about marriage or have seriously wanted you in all term of your relationship ?

[kalicooldude]

Handle it by yourself and don’t involve your friend too much,if she text,reply to her after few hours.Dont ask for coffee and let be her idea,control your emotions and feelings for now

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