[kalicooldude]

Congrats and I like the fact that you never gave up.How did you do it and please answer the questions of @ cantsum,would really appreciate your feedback so we can learn the lessons as well.

[kalicooldude]

Anyone have some advice @

[kalicooldude]

Agree with you Eric @ Girls only need attention especially when they are serious towards you and there future.

But, now the point is how to get them back and forgot past.Also make some strategy or plan to make it happen.

My strategy is to keep NC with keeping communication lines open means sending an email once in every 2/3 weeks with some solid reasoning, so it won’t look desperate or she gets any sort of sense.

What do you think and what are your plans ?

[kalicooldude]

June 1st it will be one year it was very tough journey for me emotionally…I am not good at all on this love cycle or breakups….I just take care of my own business.

I think I can only patiently wait and see. If she doesn’t come back there is nothing I can do to change her mind.

But same time I am slowly trying to have the communication lines open,which is same from her end I guess.

Thanks Eric for input @ I am sure I hurt her very bad but my intentions were not to hurt her,i did loved this girl from all my heart.

[kalicooldude]

Yes you are 100 % true on your statement,i think she still cares about me.She is definitely depressed about me and her family stress.Yes she is committed and old traditional kind girl where she wants full 100 % confidence in me,she gave me for 4 years with full dedication and serious intention to get married and have family.
I definitely didn’t put any efforts as compared to her in relationship that’s a reason I am suffering from last one year.
I am been patient and been waiting for her every second of my life and let me tell you its is very hard.

Thanks Eric for great help and opinion I think you are right on your statements,i appreciate it very much.

[kalicooldude]

I haven’t send her any letter and don’t plan to do it for another 2/3 months as Kevin forums you will see that sometimes NC will take 2-6 months of time,i have not done any texting or calling just replied to her when she asked for resume in an email and her friend when she asked for rental house.

I don’t think she is dating when I met her in person with her best friend,she looked more like a depressed person than happy girl but I am not sure very frankly.

She is worth to wait and try that’s a reason I have been patiently waiting for her from last one year.

Looks like she is interested but made herself very distant as of past and a overthinking about future with me… where different religions, I guess are also playing some sort of roles.

I have showed her my improvements but she knows that I have not moved on yet and waiting her to come back in my life.

[kalicooldude]

Just do NC and don’t think of anything else at this time.Leave her and your mind alone even tho it is toughest thing to do,i am doing NC and reaching almost 90 days but what else can be done ? Ask yourself if you have already done begging,apology,changes in your attitude and also ready to be door mat and she is still not back right ? Correct me if I am wrong

[kalicooldude]

May be you were here rebound or her ex b/f kept pursuing her even tho she was with you,and once she finds excuse for break up.She dumped you and went to him.Take it easy 7 months is not that much of time even I know it hurts.Do no contact and look for other fishes in market.You will know results in 60 days or less if you do NC starting today @

I am not expert but just my opinion

[kalicooldude]

What is the problem with family ? Is it because of different religions ? and why they don’t accept you ? How was your relationship when she came back and it was her decision to come back ?

[kalicooldude]

I wont suggest wearing them,it will give her clear vision that you are thinking about her.

[kalicooldude]

On first paragraph you mentioned you broke up with him forever
Second when you felt good you unblocked him and tried to connect with him
When he has moved on you have any issues or problems with it.

So looks like you are working with your own flexibility and heart and you didn’t care about him that time,and now you want him to love you the same way he use to do it before.

So take it easy and be patient if he is interested he will come back and but if he doesn’t you were the one who ended the 1st time.

Right ?

[kalicooldude]

I know ly88 its very hard and I will pray for your wellbeing,you tried very best and now just have hope and leave it on god,you will be fine.Do some spiritual work and take it easy even tho I can understand your pain very well.
Don’t text or add him in Skype,may be 1 email in 2 weeks so that communication lines are open.I agree with atea1234 @

[kalicooldude]

Not sure if NC is working for me its almost 80 days of NC and my ex emailed me once and came to meet me when her friend had some work with me regarding her friend getting a rental house which I posted for rent.

That’s it….loosing hope and patience I don’t think its working for me and she is coming back @

[kalicooldude]

Ly88 @

I didn’t broke my NC.I didn’t text or called anytime and today is almost 70+ days.

She asked me for resume which I replied limited but that was approx. after 40 days of me starting NC and her friend asked me to get her rental house which was approx. 52 days both of the time they asked me how I am doing and my answer was good that’s it.

Now I met my g/f and her friend last week with new version 2.0 of me to show her friend rental house,actually I was not even expecting that my ex will come with her.But I was looking confident,smiled & charming.I kept my emotions in very well control

But as now after meeting last week… I have not text or called and not plan to do any until may be 2 weeks,I plan to do her email as she stated when we met last time that if I need to give the key to her friend or anything I can email her.

So no text or phone call may be just email after 10/15 days or so.

Do you think I have hope as there was 2 times contact initiated by her and she came in person with her friend to see the rental house ? She behaved very normal and controlled emotions and she came very simple with no make up or any good clothes,i mean she has no make up and was wearing pajama and tshit @

[kalicooldude]

Also she left because you took her for granted,or you had fights,or she got sick of your behavior or she is in depression,but there is no way to find out and you should not put your energy towards it,rather make a plan and act slowly on it and let her take some steps,if she is interested.

90 days NC you will know,if she doesn’t contact its tough but if she does in 90 days you will still have hope.

Trust me I have been broken up for year and now on nc from approx. 75 days my g/f reached me 2 times thru some excuses in an email and recently I met her for few minutes as of her friend work.

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