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Thanks guys and @esamuels you get me!!! As angry and sad that I feel ima
Take your advice it’s not easy…but I’m trying to contain my emotions and yet again thank you for your advice it’s good to know that there are people out there that have been in my shoes and provide support so I won’t damage any further what’s already broken!!!When I try to give space she does mean stuff like I said before she’s being a mean girl out of spite and that’s getting to me
Thanks a lot I appreciate yours and everyone’s input. I will definitely check it out and help as best as I can
Is it normal for them to be mean and say very hurtful and spiteful things I mean damn you know I lost my grandma this past week and I’m trying to deal with that and this…and she was there with me one night and after that it’s back to being cold sorry for my rant I’m just hurting and confused
It’s not easy sometimes at night I just wanna go and caress her face or just touch her and be next to her and she’s not having it at all she is convinced that she doesn’t want me at times I feel like it’s all for nothing but I know that’s just part of the process and I’m trying to keep my composure but deep down when I lock my door to go to bed I just cry and when I wake up and see her up she just lays there and stares off into space like we both in the same place but she so stubborn
Just today as I’m taking things out the closet to organize I found this huge Valentine’s Day card that she gave me three years ago and she knocks it on the floor and says I should just throw it away of course I get upset but I didn’t say anything to let her know that I was she knew she hit a nerve and started laughing and I had mention that I was going to the movies bext weekend to see anabelle which I’ve been dying to see and she says that sounds like a good date night movies maybe she’ll go on a date to the movies all the while laughing so I politely told her if she didn’t need anything else from my room she could kindly leave as I was busy trying to clean and she left and laughed now she’s looking all serious like wtf lol
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to take things slow and at a distance. You both need time to heal so you both could have a fresh start in the relationship. I believe things will work if for you two but in the mean time focus on you. I know he cares for you and in the end it’s gonna benefit with a better relationship! Read my story it may give you a few needed laughs and have faith!!! It will all work out in the end!
As far as treating her different after we broke up the first time I was being more affectionate and sweet because We use to argue a lot it was going good then I had a heart attack which she was by my side crying not to leave her and to take care of myself better. I was very stressed at that time I had just graduated from school and jobs were not lined up as a matter of fact it took me a good 6 months to get a job in my field of study and up until 3 weeks ago things were good and then we would argue because she was always on the game for 3 weeks straight everyday for 8-9 hours I felt ignored I wanted her time then we go away for the weekend a week ago we come back and everything changed lol but it’s been like that for awhile but like I said before I’m going to do the no contact rule and try love dare and I’ll keep you posted everyday thank you so much!!! How are you feeling today
I’m going to try that I know she cares for me. I know when she says things like Im not in love with you but have love for you and trying to make me jealous is just her way of dealing with her pain. I’m going to try a combination of both focus on me for now because I always put her first and never really think of myself. Yes you are right about being a door mat I’ve done everything for her except wipe her ass lol and being we have different schedules it should make things as far as no contact a little easier I work from 330-12am and she works 930-630. I most definitely will. I’m so glad I came to this site and talk with people who are going thru what I’m going thru. This is good therapy for everyone involved and I’m so grateful for everyone’s input, advice and support. I really do appreciate it.
I do hope he wakes up and realizes what he has before he loses it for real! You seem like a very good mother, wife, and friend! Love is not easy!!! I hope everything turns out ok for you and your kids!!! Please keep me posted!!!
Not only that but I get I’m not in love with you but I love you. I don’t want to get back with you but yet you stay texting me at work R u ok and did you eat??? Lol sometimes I just feel like screaming at the top of my lungs because it’s aggravating. She told me she met up with someone last Friday and then says she didn’t but if we argue and I try to be cordial I’m bipolar lmao this is a crazy mess and because of this confusion I have begged pleaded cried got on my knees and tried to get her back I just don’t know anymore lol it’s frustrating because i feel like she knows I love her and don’t wanna be without her but at the same time she’s playing this game of I know you love and can’t be without me and I have the power to decide whether you could have me or not does that make any sense lol
He is just as confusing as my ex! He probably doesn’t know what he wants like he’s going thru some midlife crisis or something.
I so agree the crazy thing about it is everytime we talk about it conversation goes south and we have no choice but to live together because of our financial situation and the craziest part of it is that my room is the only one with the cable box because my ex is a gamer and prefers to sleep in the living room with the Xbox one so when it comes time to watch tv we both have to watch together. I am so confused because at the same time my ex wants me to cater to her because I’m the one who cooks cleans and works full time I guess we depend on each other but my issue is if your so adamant about dating why are you still asking me to do things for you and confuse the crap out of me it’s like she’s bipolar like I said before one minute she tells me she loves me then next minute she could barely tolerate me and doesn’t want me to touch like wtf is that lol I’m so confused I tried to leave but she doesn’t want me to leave then says I don’t care and then says I just want you to be ok like make up your mind. Now I’m getting its over but yet you find yA way into my room to lay in my bed with me watch tv and then wants to sleep in the next room now is that not mixed signals or what Cuz I’m lost and confused to the point of insanity lol
