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Yes I ended it. It’s a long story….he hurt me, but even though I forgave him, my mother actually forced me to leave him (verbally abusing me until I did). I never wanted to leave him. I’m on the other side of the world, so it was hard to be away from him, I was emotional, and I made a mistake. I blocked him, to do NC, and hoped that he would still love me like I loved him. ….I never thought he would move on in less than two months. I unblocked him six months after breakup to give more time, in hopes he would end his rebound relationship soon, but he didn’t. He fell in love with her, and he already wants to spend the rest of his life with her. There is no hope.
Our love was magical, and amazing, and true. So I just don’t understand how he could do this.
I feel like I’m not good enough, and like she is better than me.Instead of answering me, he posted a picture of him and his gf on Facebook, with the caption, “My girl. You are an amazing woman. Love you forever and always.”
He used to say that to me, but he never put pictures of us on Facebook.
I think he loved me more, but I hurt him too much, and he knows he has to move on. I just wanted him to tell me his love for me was all true, and he regrets losing me. He wasn’t supposed to get over me so fast! I hate how he moved on so disgustingly soon, and it kills me that he wants to spend his life with HER now.
I’m hoping he will say something to me after sending him a long letter, pouring out all of my emotions to him (before I saw the picture). Bu I’m going to give up now. I have to. It’s over.
I know I will find love again, but I will always be hurt.I was so mad he said no to Skype with me, I said, “Talking to me on Skype is better anyway, because there is no proof of you saying things your gf might be upset about….for example, telling your ex you love her, and miss her.” …oops!!!! I’m sure blackmail and threats will not get him back. No wonder he won’t answer me. I feel terrible.
…I just can’t beleive he loves someone new so much already! I can’t believe he has completely gotten over me so quickly, and already wants to spend the rest of his life with this new girl, and already bought her a car! I’ve spent every night for the past six months crying over him, but he moved on just fine!
I feel he is happier with her, and I don’t think he will ever want me back. I guess I can live with that…. I think I’m just not letting go of the fact that he moved on so fast. That is what hurts me so much.
I thought she was just a rebound, but it’s more than that. Maybe he loves her more, all the evidence proves he does, but our love was too amazing for me to beleive he found better. I know he thought I was his true love at the time. I just need him to truthfully tell me how he feels now.
…maybe he does love me more, but he just doesn’t want me back. I could live with that. But if he does love her more, I will always wonder what is wrong with me.I don’t know how to remind him of why he loved me. Ive only been reminding him of the opposite. 🙁
Have you asked him why he decided to end it? It seems like he ended it too suddenly, without warning, so I think he still loves you, and is attracted to you. Also, I feel you would have noticed some drawbacks if he wasn’t happy. So it seems like there is another reason that caused this. Maybe he is feeling guilty about something he did, or he is having issues you don’t know about, or he is worried about the commitment.
My ex actually tried to break up with me because he was depressed about his best friend dying. I didnt even know about it, so I’m saying it might not be anything to do with you.
I guess you are going through the NC period, and you’re not really supposed to talk about the breakup next time you speak, but I would calmly ask him why he ended it, at the end of a good day/night together. Make it seem like no big deal, but I think that it is important. Then if it is something both of you can work through together, then he will want to be with you again.
Idk, that’s what I would do first, and go from there….but I pushed my ex away, so maybe I’m wrong.A little while ago, I was asking a friend how my ex was doing. My friend said (exact words), “From what I heard from others, the break up hit him hard. They said that he hasn’t been the same as he was with you. One person told me that you two seemed to be made for one another. She noticed how you two were so happy together.”
My friend told me he also thought my ex seemed happier with me. That made me feel better, because I thought he must still love me.
I just want to ask him to honestly tell me if he loved me more, or if he loves her more than he ever loved me. …but I am too afraid of the answer.I don’t know what to think. I can’t imagine him loving her more than he loved me, because we shared a love that was too amazing to find so easily with another. I really don’t think he does, but yet all the evidence nearly proves he loves her more than he EVER loved me. So I don’t know. I’m obviously confused, and I want to send him a million messages, but I know that would not be good. ….I feel like the messages I already sent, is enough reassurance for him, so he will never have second thoughts about choosing her over me. I feel like I messed up so badly, because he was talking to me, telling me he loves me, and I completely lost that in a few days.
On the first day, he told me that if I would have spoken to him sooner, then we would be together. So I was NOT calm, and I said way too much, and now he will not talk to me again. I know I messed up, but he has probably fallen in love too much now, to come back to me anyway.Thank you. I think you’re right.
But…
I said I wanted to skype, and then I would leave him alone. He told me he couldn’t skype, he will miss me, and that he would leave ME alone….forever! ….He is willing to never talk to me again for the rest of his life!!
🙁 So I guess he loves her more.
So I wrote a letter that was probably too long, telling him I can’t speak to him anyway, because it hurts too much. It hurts he moved on so fast, and that he is so serious with another woman so soon.
I feel like he won’t even read my message. I hope he does, but I don’t think he will respond. I don’t think he will ever say anything to me again.
He used to tell me I was his one and only true love, and I know our love was amazing and real. I never stopped loving him for even a second.
…. I wish he loved me more than her.He wasn’t willing to talk with me on Skype, so I guess he doesn’t really love me that much. I think he loves her more….the NC period was too long. I gave him too much time to fall in love with someone else. Or maybe he just didn’t love me as much as he said he did. Or maybe she is just better than me.
