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Lol thanks, I hope everything works out with you!
Hey btw was it a long distance relationship? If so how often would you guys see each other, talk on the phone, Skype etc…
I’m moving slightly further from her in a month but I will also be getting my license by then so… I’ll be able to drive over if we start dating again. I’m still so worried lol, I want it to work out so much.
It’s funny because I also thought if I was given more time/warning I would have worked harder.
I tried 30days I failed at 21 after I didn’t get a happy birthday. We spoke in Skype for about an hour, she was happy and friendly with me, she got cold whenever I brought up the relationship, for example I asked why and she said “because imy not in love with you” lol kinda cold right? Anyways I was like there’s a reason tho… then she admitted to my neediness, since then I have learned to be less needy, I just want another chance so we both can work hard to have a happy relationship. Anyways I sent a couple texts and she would reply in short messages. The next day I sent a text about a party I was invited to, she looked at it but never replied, the next day she went back into the messages looked at my message and replied. That made me think she was thinking about me so… I waited a couple days then texted saying I’m going to be busy for the next two weeks so essentially don’t contact me lol
I did this to give each of us more space/time to miss each other. I’m going to text her after I’m done catching up with school and packing so probably 6 – 8 days
First, let him look at your profile and like your pictures, it’s harmless behavior and it means he cares enough to see what you are doing.
No my girlfriend didn’t contact me during the NCP, I believe that’s because I was a super needy boyfriend, I got dependant on her and called and texted everyday, I wanted to talk for at least and hour a day. That was bad because she has school and other responsibilities, we are both also 18, she’s probably at the point in her life when she wants to have new and exiting experiences. I imagine she doesn’t want to be tied down, she wants the opportunity to do different things however, I’m not giving up 🙂
A big problem was me being clingy/needy so to stop that I read many articles and spoke with many people. I realised that almost nobody wants a clingy partner, for me it’s about how much I care about the person. If me being clingy is going to ruin the relationship then… I need to stop being clingy. Knowing how much I care about her and how much I want to be with her helped me get over my neediness if that makes sense…
Hope this helped and if you have any advice or support for me that would be great! 🙂
Oh and yes, I will try to contact my ex sometime next week. It’s a good time considering it’ll be after the one month mark, this is usually the time where they move to the missing you stage, this however varies between people so it’s all yet to be seen. Anyways I would just continue no contact, she may be thinking of you and that’s why she liked your posts or she may just be looking them because she sees them. Anyways gtg to school gl
I agree thanks! I am so sorry that you are going through this, I obviously know how it feels. Honestly all I can say is that it gets better with time, that is obviously not what you want to hear but it’s true.
In my case I didn’t/don’t have the strength to delete my ex off social media, to me it also seems kinda childish, especially because we didn’t break up over a major issue. On Halloween after my cousin came over I deleted the instagram app off my phone, I went without it for over a week and it was hard. Since then I have downloaded the app again but I noticed something changed.
I no longer feel… for lack of a better word, like shit when I see her photos. I still miss her and want to be with her but it’s not nearly as painful.
I realised the best chance I have of getting her back and being in a happy, healthy relationship is if I stop obsessing and try to return to my old self.
She was initially attracted to me because I was attractive (still am 🙂 ) kind, funny, and I shared the same values as her. I now realized that I was far to dependant on her, my happiness relied on her, she was my everything. That is a bad attitude to have… I have been working on it an I feel better, it still does hurt it’s just that it hurts so much less.
Stay positive and focus on yourself, do stuff with your friends!
And honestly you can talk to me whenever I find talking on this website very ummm… therapeutic. We can help each other 🙂
Oh and sorry if I rambled or stuff doesn’t make sense, it’s 6:00am and I need more sleep so good night, message me if you have questions or just… want to talk to someone 🙂
Hey, I have found that the pain from the breakup hurts less everyday. I no longer cry randomly or have dips where I stalk her instagram while tearing up. I still have ups and downs I just find the downs easier and the ups more fun. It doesn’t hurt me as bad when I see a pictures of her either.
Today my family got on the topic of the breakup, we were at my aunt’s and… everyone thinks they are a “proffessonal” on the subject. They made it worse saying things like:
“she said she’s not in love with you! You need to move on you, you have no chance.”
Can somone help me? I need advice, my two week NCR ends in like 8days and I am kinda nervous.
Sometimes I’m happy and sometimes I’m really depressed, you can read my last post to know exactly how I feel.
Any advise you can give? Or something you can say that will make me more confident we will get back together lol:)
PS. How have you been?
I’m in class right now… im typing this on my laptop 🙂
I don’t even know 100% what i’m writing about, it’s just that I want… reassurance I guess, don’t worry I know that that is something you guys can’t give me. Well that’s not true, you can assure me that “everything is going to be okay”, you can say “you’ll be able to move on and find someone else”. Something you can’t say however is “You’re going to get back with Maddie, you guys will have a happy and healthy relationship!”. It sucks how the one thing I want to happen so badly is the one thing I cant control.No matter how much I improve myself, how much I try, how good I treat her, what if she just… doesn’t like me? How can I deal with that? Someone basically after all my efforts looking at me and saying “you’re not good enough…” well I suppose it wont matter what she thinks when I move on. I cant help but not want to move on, I feel like it would make everything easier if I did, I would be happier, but if I try to move on and forget about her… it meas its 100% over (I understand that it wont matter if it’s over if I move on, I will no longer care about her and what she says about me). But it’s a matter of getting to that point, the point where I no longer have the desire to… see, touch and love my ex.
I guess what i’m getting at is, how do I move forward without giving myself false hope? How do I feel like i’m both progressing with my life while trying to be apart of my ex’s?
Why does the human brain work like this… even with all of the support from you wonderful people and all of the “it’s going to be okay!”, “you have a good chance!”. I’m still scarred, I wish that I could just KNOW if it’s going to work out…
Well, thanks for reading my rant, i’m kinda all over the place. I should keep a video diary and log all of these chats, then give it to people who want to learn about breakups 🙂
Dang! This is one of the more “popular” topics, apart from the ones with like 200 – 800 replies lol
Sorry to hear about you btw, I know how it feels lol hope you are feeling better and it all works out.
OMG… thanks dude that calmed me right down! I’m waiting two weeks as you probably know, however, I am not sure if that is long enough. (For me to gather myself).
But a good advantage is that I’m going to start slow, one or two texts a week, then calls, etc… this will give virtually more time to gather myself and feel better.
Even as I’m writing this “our song” just came on my Playlist and I didn’t notice or care lol I’m making progress 😉
Like I said before it’s just hard to look At this break like “improving myself woo!” Instead of “Okay, only 13, 12, 11 etc… says until I can text her woo!”
I understand and it will be good for me.
It’s becoming obsession rather than attraction/love. I need to slow down because I can feel my emotions going crazy. Some of my family battles depression and I feel like I’m going down the road of mental illness.
I am unable to control my thoughts and emotions and my mom said it’s becoming unhealthy. I got overly attached… to the point where I was not living for myself anymore, I still feel like I’m living to make others happy… I can’t stop these emotions, I must learn to stay calm and live for myself again before I do something that I can’t take back.
Because of this I feel like it is appropriate to wait before contacting my ex I need time to gather my bearings.
Thanks,
Grayson (my real name)
She is in a drama class and she could be doing a short play playing a character named sandy… because she was dressed different and in a weird pose in the picture… like she had one shoulder showing and she was making a face like “I wanna fuck you” im in class right now and I’m so fucking worried lol my mind is going crazy over basically nothing…
