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A.z did you go back to them or just miss them and is there anything they could have done to change your mind?

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I just feel like we’ve been through this so many tines and this time may be the last time..I wish there was something I could say..I know what you mean about missing me I miss him so much already..but I know that usually the person breaking up feels differently then the person being broken up with and I’m afraid he just won’t miss me this time since things went so bad..

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Day 4 of NC and I’m worried it’s done..so much has happened and I feel he may never contact me. Is there anything I can say to him or must I keep to NC?

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Thanks a.z 🙂

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Thanks a.z what you said helps a lot… But do you really think I will hear from him again? He told me he is completely over after that incident…

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Thanks a.z..it’s been 3 days and I know he’s on tinder.not to mention I still don’t know where he used those condoms.. 🙁

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Having such a hard time with this..haven’t heard from him and don’t know if I will. I’m afraid he will move on..and won’t come back..I know I can’t give in and contact..

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Thanks..some good advice here..

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I agree 100 % with your comments.. Whether he did anything or not, we were broken up however I just don’t want to be lied to. On the other note, I only want him back if he comes whole heartedly..otherwise we will end up just as we are not..broken up again…. Should I ignore him initially if he contacts me or respond?

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Thank you all for your support…I’m feeling really sad today and trying to make sense of it all..although I did some begging I think I also showed some strength on Sunday..here is the communication. Please tell me what you think and if you think I will hear from him again..

Me: As much as I’ve thought about it, I know I’m right with the condoms. In the course of a year I know I’ve been in your bag several times at your request and no condoms were ever there. I so wanted to believe otherwise but I’m sure of it. I’m ok moving on knowing that I wasn’t valued for the loving woman that I know I am and that moving forward I will be with the person that values me.

Him: they were in there all the time.
(Note: he is OCD and always cleans his bags out. He has asked me several times to go in his bag over the course of a year..I’m pretty darn sure)

Me: I know they weren’t and you cannot convince me otherwise

Him: you are 100 percent wrong

Conversation ended at 3..

730 pm:
Him: Listen, I get that you’re sad and disappointed that it didn’t work between us, but please stop with your accusations because it’s offensive and uncalled for. I never took that bag to any other place than your house. I even forgot that those condoms were in there, but I can tell you they were there the entire time. Perhaps you didn’t open that side pouch. For the record, I don’t recall ever asking you to go through my bag.
Best of luck with your new job stef. I genuinely mean that.
Me: I’m completely right and it’s all good.im ok with moving on I’ve never had someone be so cruel and it’s not what I want in my life
Him: You’re not right. I wasn’t cruel, but say what you need to say
Me: I don’t need to say anything and I’m done.I know the truth and that’s all that matters.

Him: ok whatever

I deleted him from BBm and blocked him on Facebook.

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Thank you..I hope so but right now I’m falling apart and am trying to find strength…I won’t contact him no matter what but just feel awful…

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Hmmm stuck:(

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Bigger problems then ever :(. So..we spent most of the weekend together and at some point Saturday, I noticed condoms in his bag… We don’t use them…and I’ve been dating him for a year.(I’m fixed!) I’m pretty sure they weren’t there before. He has asked me to go into his bag to get him several things and never condoms. I asked him about it and all he’ll broke loose. He said that they were in his bag before my time and that I crossed lines with him and had trust issues. I agree that I did not handle the situation properly but I was at least 95 percent sure the condoms weren’t there before. There still is that 5 percent…I told him that we have been apart and he has been distant and that my only conclusion is that he used confirms with someone else… After a night of apologies and begging, he said he was done for good. I eventually said.. Ok. Sorry you feel that way and I’m sure there are other people out there for us and left. He had a surprised look on his face but agreed. I still am hoping this can be resolved. At the end of the day I need to feel safe and loved in a relationship and he wasn’t giving me that. I won’t contact him Snc will only see or speak to him if he comes back wanting this as much as I do. What do you think?

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He has a high pressure job and it could be part of it.. I don’t know..he’s distant. We had make up sex 3 days ago the day we got back together. He’s totally not an affectionate person but this is a bit different in the sense that he is colder then ever but yet wants to spend time together. I’m not getting upset but did say that I wanted a good night kiss and he was humming and hawing and gave me a pec. I didn’t push it and said goodnight. The break up was about 3 weeks but we got back together for a few days briefly in between.

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Not really sure how to take this..spending time with him and he is being quite unaffectionate.. It’s like he wants to be with me but doesn’t come close..last night invited me over and the night before he came to my house..I had to ask him for a goodnight kiss and even then it was more friend like… Not sure if he is still confused or just has a lot on his mind..he’s not affectionate to begin with but trying to understand where his head is at…

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