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haha right! I told my friend the same thing a few weeks ago. Its the same advice I would give but how come when im in the situation im going crazy and cant follow it without others telling me.
I hated hearing people tell me to focus on me but if you dwell on it thats not going to help. Time will go bye and boom she will reach out. Women dont get over a relationship as easily as guys and at the same time they dont tend to get over being hurt as quickly. Regardless if she was being distant I bet when you broke up with her it hurt her. Hence the deleting you from everything. She knows that will hurt you but if you remember what Kevin said that’s all an act. I’d focus on yourself and try not to dwell on it as much as possible. I know excersice, chores, and spending time with friends and family helped me. You just have to remember being distant is your best bet. Going after her pushes her further away. Pulling away brings her closer.
Hard for me to read her too. I was just going off her text response to you. I would wait a few days, write the letter, and carry on with NC. I mean there’s no real alternative that will work. She needs to miss you and see that you’re done. Hopefully it will create some panic in her and she will start to see that you were a good boyfriend that was willing to work on it.
Hey there, sounds like she might be mad that you broke up with her. Think of the positive she did not need to reply. I dont think there’s anythimg wrong with writing the letter. I would wait one week though and send it next weekend. Write it down and im sure over the next week you will make a bunch of edits and perfect the letter to your situation. I know lots of new thoughts came to my head as the days went on. Or just text and email anything you are thinking of putting in the letter and send it to yourself. When it comes close to end of next week compose it with all your notes. You dont want to rush through it. Make sure you don’t sound needy or come off as begging. Stay strong
I sent a short email instead of an actual letter. I said I am totally ok with the breakup and sorry how I acted afterwords. The first couple days I blew her up on text and was getting very little in replies. She replied and it wasnt a great reply. A week later out of the blue she text me late at night. Wanted to share some good news she got or so she said. I replied and we had a friendly chat.I just kept it friendly. Left her hanging at the end and went to sleep. The next couple weeks I just left her alone and replied when she contacted me. Always friendly but nothing about us. It became more frequent and I let her wonder what was going on and let her chase me. We broke up for close to two months. But its not that long if you want them back forever. You already made it a month!
Basically the same process as you are at. I waited for NC to end and then I sent a short letter as suggested just basically letting her know I accepted the breakup, I was sorry for how I acted after the breakup, and that I would like to have a talk for closure as we had not had a talk at all. She basically had a breakdown and needed to work on things in her life. She said she was not ready to talk and I said okay well let me know when you’re ready and I was polite and told her to take care of herself. A few days later as I was passing out my text started going off. We ended up talking for an hour on text. I only kept it friendly and made sure never to mention the breakup or relationship. Short and sweet. From there it continued to progress. I let her chase me. I didn’t initiate contact and let her do all work. I wanted to make her wonder what I was doing, why I was not contacting her, why I was not pursuing her. Shes gotta miss you and start thinking she could lose you forever.
Thank you. I read the full version of the magic letter that you pay for. A friend had it. It was basically what Kevin’s email said but it was also more of a letting them know you accept the breakup but you cant be friends cause a friend would talk to you and tell you whats going on. Its basically a bluff to insight emotion to get them to contact you. You’re supposed to send it when you feel they are indifferent meaning they have no emotion good or bad for you and its supposed to make them want to prove you wrong. I actually had a really good day full of positive signs yesterday. Could you read my last post in this thread and give advice?
It seems like NC is working and I just need to continue? Oh and I am working on myself. Today I feel really good and im down 25 pounds since we broke up
Good signs but play harder to get. Dont tell him eveeything you think right now. Make him work for it. Let him contact you. Dont let him think he can just have you whenever he wants or he will end up putting you on the backburner again. He has some trust to earn. Be strong and fight the urge to message him. Let him wonder what you are doing
