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Hi Catafox, thanks for your reply. Your situation with your ex and co-owning a home together sounds pretty difficult. I hope you find some answers too. It’s not easy, is it?
If I were to look at my situation as an outsider then I would believe that my ex planned this all along and wanted to hurt me back. So it is all intentional.
If I were wishful thinking, then it would be that he is feeling confused and hurt from seeing me and needs space and time to figure out what he wants and if he wants to be with me again.
For the time that I have known him and his ways, it would be the first scenario but a part of his reason is ‘you sometimes have to be cruel to be kind…it’s not going to work out. We’re not meant for each other…let’s let each other go.’
So for my own sanity and looking after myself…I’m not going to do anything. I’ve stopped texting/calling him and letting go of trying to control the situation. I can only control my own actions, that’s my responsibility. I can’t make, and I don’t want to push/force someone to be with me.
He was really caring and gentleman with me that weekend. He asked me if I was okay a lot, if I was cold in the cinema. So I’m really confused with why he’s behaving like this.
I know that he’s got a lot to sort at the moment and he has long commutes which he feels tired most of the time. Last week he felt like he ‘have had enough.’
I’ve done quite a few of texting and calling last few days. So I feel like the role has reversed and he’s doing NC!
What’s the best next step that I can take?Thanks IA. What you said really makes sense. I always need to remind myself that when a man goes quiet it’s because he needs space and time to work things out or just to de-stress…and not to take it personally. Often, it is just me worrying over nothing!! 🙂
I want to take things slow too. If my ex and I are to get back together then I can imagine there will more conversations over time about us starting over and work things through together. I’m not a fan of just jumping back into a relationship and reliving old patterns that led us to break up.
