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She’ll be doing her work. I’m sure you remember what is was like when you were studying, the work load is almost insurmountable most of the time.
That guy is gone.
Tonight was a big reach out for you from her. It was good that you responded.
It’s been on and off for us. I couldn’t say honestly. I’ve spoken to her only once on the phone since we broke up, which is a month ago on Saturday. The texts haven’t ever been casual though. Last week after we agreed her visit (or I offered) we chatted about what date we moved out of our flat as she needed to tell the home office. Contact was better then, I should’ve taken note. Apart from that it’s been pretty minimal from her, only replying to my texts with nothing positive since we parted.
Feeling like not seeing her was a bad choice, it bolstered her decision last time. Worst part is, it’s done it for me too, and I don’t like it one bit. The distance is forcing us apart, and I can feel it with each day. Another week to add to it before I see her again. I text her Tuesday, nothing in return, not that there’s anything to say really. She’ll happily play no contact I think.
I’ll try and be cool, but seeing her face when I know what’s coming will probably break me. Maybe I’ll try and just enjoy her company one last time.
Woah. I’d say you did it just right. She asked for you to help her and you did. Nice work.
See what happens next, definitely progress though. She will remember that moment man. You didn’t fail. Don’t regret making contact.
I wish there was someone to do that for us. Weird thing is with our mutual friends and commitments we have to be friendly, makes me think that’s what next Saturday will be about. I don’t feel good anymore. She’s always online, must have a lot to distract her. I don’t have much I guess. Life is pretty boring without her.
Sorry for my delayed reply.
I would. I definitely would.
When you say “You both have done enough” what do you mean?
I’m trying to think like that. I’m trying. But people are giving me advice that doesn’t have the hope I find here. Saw my counsellor this evening, he thinks she’s trying to build a wall so she can move on with her chosen path. Keeping her distance as she knows she would find it hard not to come back now she’s walked away. Makes perfect sense really. This time I’ve taken makes me think I haven’t actually helped matters. Helped me sure, but I don’t know about us.
I think the photobook now won’t have it’s chosen effect when she sees me. Made up her mind and all that. She’s very driven.
What’s the latest at your end?
I wish she’d step up and tell me what she’s feeling. You know I can’t remember what she looks like in person now already? I see photos of her and think yes that’s her, but I can’t imagine her in front of me. I cry every single fucking night, and every morning.
Sounds like a good plan man, I hope it works! She sounds very keen, you can do this!
Horrible thought that when we do meet, it’ll have been six weeks since I saw her in person. I think it’s over now if I’m honest, that’s why I’m deliberating flowers. I don’t feel that drive to get her, at least not now. I just feel sad.
I have no idea Patrick. None at all. I’m getting so tired now.
What about you? Have you replied to those messages yet?
Interesting how everyone thinks differently, got some conflicting advice from a friend from work. He thought if he were me he wouldn’t send them, said that as things are very confusing at this time, making a romantic gesture wouldn’t necessarily be a wise idea. Much like the email gesture I suppose. He’s known me for years and has been through some difficult breakups himself, lost a marriage.
Thinking of these too, not too Valentine-ish. Plus they’re unusual.
I’ve been thinking maybe just don’t send them on Valentine’s.
http://www.serenataflowers.com/product.asp?prod=105008&refpage=Home_Page&position=pos12
On the text I sent her before the one I got it saying we weren’t getting back together, I had sent her an email with a link to one of our favourite comedian’s new stand up short. I had to buy it, but it only cost a couple of pounds.
She said ‘You probably shouldn’t have sent me that email’ (made me think the gesture had driven her away at the time) and told me it was a lovely gesture but was inappropriate.
It’s this information versus sentences like ‘I know things are really utterly shit at the moment’ that throw me. That sounds like things will get better, or maybe that’s just my interpretation. I overthink everything anyway, but right now it’s crazy.
Don’t read into any of it too much. The fact that she text you a lot is a good sign. Work on that and that alone. Not seeing one sounds like she’s lonely. Take from that what you will I suppose. Clarifying it’s with her study means everything isn’t ok outside of her work. Good sign.
Keep calm.
I’m close to giving up Patrick. I spoke to one of my workmates (female) who thinks that she didn’t like the fact I’d given her space so that’s why I got a reaction. I think that’s true, but I have also felt different since the weekend. I feel like the dust has settled, something has changed. She thought it was over, and now with me being distant I feel it confirms it. I want to send her flowers, and my workmate said do it. She thinks that whether or not I think it will piss her off, it won’t.
Whatever, I don’t even know anymore.
