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She kissed you right? Then what are worrying about. Don’t even listen to what she said, she kissed you!
It’s been a matter of days. Give her space. Read my other posts to you. What you need to see this through is already there, honestly.
You don’t have to do anything but be cool.
And process the anger, feel it. She’s fucking you around man! Don’t be a doormat. Stand your ground, but do so by being absent.
Just let her miss you for a few days, then go and see her.
Lame if I’m honest. It’s been messy.
She broke up with me over my insecurities, right as I was about to make an effort to change them. Managed to miss two opportunities to see her since basically. I guess I dug my own grave. 3 years, 8 months. 2 and a half years living together.
She actually essentially offered to come and see me this weekend, but somehow I managed to do my normal bit of asking too many questions, casual ones, but too much too fast. Now I don’t know if she’s coming or not.
I have a letter and a card to give her, but I think she’s coming to call it a day.
You can read the first few posts on my thread, you’ll see what I missed.
So whatever you do, take it slowly.
You are in such a good position man. Chill out. Take some time for yourself, and don’t chase her. If she texts, take time to reply and be level headed.
It’s been a matter of days for you man. You know what I wouldn’t do is consider things too much. Take your stuff back and have faith. As long as you didn’t do anything wrong you’ll be ok. However, if you did do something wrong then think about it and apologise. Don’t grovel, just accept your misdoings. Be a man.
She will tell you all you need to know when you meet. And don’t come one here too much if you can, accept where you are and don’t let it cloud your judgement. Seek advice only when you need it. Take your time, make the right moves and then come back here.
I had the chance to resolve things two weeks ago with my partner, I just didn’t know it at the time because I wasn’t thinking clearly. Missed it.
I still don’t know if she’s coming on Sunday, not going to wait and see though, just going to carry on. I don’t like those kind of phrases anymore, supposed to have moved onward in some form like you said.
You did a lot of waiting already, don’t be drawn in to it. Your patience is better than that. I wouldn’t even call it patience. Resolve.
My counsellor said he was privileged to have heard my letter, he knows my situation quite well now and said he felt my pain when I explained that I haven’t had my chance. I’ve had lots of chances in reality but I haven’t taken them. I know I was asked by her not to chase, but I feel like I should have done it anyway. I won’t ask her about this weekend anymore unless we get to Saturday, and if she says she isn’t coming then so be it. I shan’t reply, she can do what she likes after that point. No more now. I’ll just turn up at her house the weekend after and say my piece.
Back to where I was two weeks ago. I’d learnt not to concern myself with it at that point, and it wrapped me back up once she gave me something to hold on to. I know she’s holding all the cards again really now so will only come to end it or not come at all.
I have the feeling at this point in time that she doesn’t want it anymore, she just doesn’t know how to end it.
You got any thoughts on this? I’m struggling again. Read my letter to my counsellor today and it brought a tear to his eye. Made me sad to think that she has no idea. I realised that that’s what I’m so caught up about. I’m gonna do my best on Sunday, but I think it’s going to be over now.
I did, I made the offer with my last text that I sent. I didn’t ask it as a question, but I made the offer and she ignored it. I put the text on here a few posts back.
Keep it rational.
Honestly I’m not really, pissed off that she offered for us to meet and I did my usual nonsense and now she hasn’t confirmed either way.
I’m at a sort of breaking point, but there’s a peace there too.
Don’t know mate. Don’t think about it like that. Just be calm, be accepting.
Take some time to process the information you have found here. No overthinking now.
Chill Patrick. You’ve got somewhere, be thankful of that and be calm.
I’m really tempted to send that text I wrote. Later obviously, after work. Time to think.
Found a quote I want to put as a status from Eckhart Tolle:
If you really want to know your mind, the body will give you a truthful reflection. If there is an apparent conflict between them, the thought will be the lie, and the emotion will be the truth.
‘maybe we might get back together’
There’s your answer to everything, just be patient. You spent a long time together, you think she’ll forget you in a week?
