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Thank you so much. I am doing a lot better, I realized I am a lot happier on my own then in a relationship where I was insecure and always mad. Sometimes I am reminded of good moments that make me feel sad but I remind myself that it’s okay to be sad about it and over time I’ll be happy about them. His friend sent me a picture of the girl that my ex is “f*** buddies” with, according to his friends, and I did get extremely angered but I do think that if he truly loved me then he wouldn’t have moved on within a week regardless if the relationship was unhealthy or not. And I don’t think he would be so rude either. His birthday is the 19th, I was thinking of simply saying happy birthday just to be cordial but I’m not sure if I really want to.
Think I’m truthfully getting over him. I noticed that he’s at my neighbors right now and I really didn’t care. Typically I would have texted him but after all this help from this website (Especially from you, Patricia12) for once in the past 5 years I’m finally getting over my ex. Realized I do deserve a lot better than what I had. Thank you again
Thank you so much Patricia12, that made me realize a lot. You are 100% right, I will move on and find better. I deserve more than what I had. Is there anything I can help you on?:)
You are right… I guess it’s hard because we’ve had so many great memories. I never felt the way I felt with him. He’s always clean when he’s with me so I felt as if we were good together. I’m not sure. I do want better for myself but just wished he would be better
So his friends talked to me yesterday that his drug use is getting worse…. when we were together he would stay clean or stick with only smoking marijuana. But when we break up he always experiments. So freshman year he didn’t do anything, when we broke up he started smoking weed, sophomore year we got back together and he stayed clean, then we broke up and he was dropping acid and eating shrooms along with smoking weed. then the end of junior year we got back together and he only smoked weed, we broke up in September and now he’s doing Coke and trying to get harder stuff. His friends contacted me about how he’s addicted and it’s getting bad. I know when we dated I pointed out his problem but he would get livid so I know I shouldn’t say anything..
Well, a lot happened. I said happy thanksgiving, he did back, then I continued on a conversation and he asked why I’m still talking to him, I gave it a couple days and then we talked slightly but not much, got in an argument about the girl he told me he doesn’t care at all about her and doesn’t trust “us women” anyways. Told me he doesn’t know anything I’m doing so as far as he knows I could be a ho?? I got defensive and we argued from there. Then he told me to stop texting him before shit happens (implying he will block me) so I haven’t texted him in about three weeks….
Hey Patricia, how is the situation going now? I think it’s a great step that he misses you and did want to see you. It seems as if you both are quiet busy with your life so maybe it’s just not the best timing? I’m sure everything is going to work out 🙂
Thank you so much. That means a lot to me that you replied, I’m honestly struggling right now. I just feel so shitty I can’t express this feeling. I really want to send the screenshots so I can update you on our conversation, could you email me? it’s [email protected]
So we had a full blown conversation and it’s pretty hurtful. Basically he told me he wished we didn’t last so long because it should have just been a “high school relationship”, I taught him to never treat a high school girl like a princess, he has no interest in talking to me again and yeah. I’m extremely hurt. I don’t even know what to think right now.
I texted him why he’s being antisocial and he said “Because I don’t want to talk why do you want to talk to me?” what do I say..? I want to become friends since we had such a huge role in each other’s lives but the fact that I did NC for the month and he still doesn’t want to talk kinda hurts.
Thank you for that. Today was a full month of no contact so I did message him saying “happy thanksgiving!! I’m thankful on the huge impact you’ve made on my life in the past (almost) four years, hope we can remain close?” and he said “Happy thanksgiving Courtney! I’m Thankful for everything you’ve showed me about life these last few years” I asked then how he’s doing but he hasn’t read it yet. I felt like his message back wasn’t a positive one, like that he’s thankful I’ve shown him negative things since our relationship wasn’t the best thanks to me… what did you think about it?
I just saw some recent photos of him and a piece of me just broke. I don’t blame him for leaving. I was becoming so toxic again and I’m gonna get help for my issues but like I can’t get over that he had sex with Julia. I’m not a saint but this is honestly messing with me. I miss him so much and I don’t even know how to text him when NC is over. help me please 🙁 I was doing so well and now I’m back to breaking apart.
Well he was extremely faithful when we dated and he blocked her when she was trying to get at him. But as soon as we broke up at a party she asked why she was blocked and so he unblocked her and his bad influence of a friend started to invite her where they would be at (he told me that he wanted my ex to start sleeping around since he never has and he was) and started having sex… You’re right. I feel so horrible for having rebounds but it helped me cope last time, if I had known that it would have affected him so much when we got back together that time I obviously wouldn’t even think about doing it.
So his friend was texting me about it on Tuesday… Here’s the conversation (sorry if it’s too long:
Him:I’m not trying to be a d*** or hurt your feelings court but I really don’t think he’s coming back
Me: Why do you think that? Does he like Julia?
Him: I hang out with him all the time. And no. She’s a fling. No one in our clique likes anyone. All we want is p****.
Me: Is he sleeping around with more than just her?
Him: Idk I don’t ask him about that type of stuff. But I know when we chill and she’s there. There’s 85% he’s gonna be getting some later that’s all
Me: Damn.. He’s changed. Does he say anything about me?
Him: Yeah of course he has changed. He is probably just focusing on doing him and not being in a relationship. He doesn’t talk about you guys, Well he has on somethings but not what’d you expect. Just guy talk and stuff
Me: Like about us having sex?
Him: yea basically that’s all guys talk about if we decide to talk about hoes
Me. He called me a hoe? I’m wondering if he truly did love me or not if all he talked about me was sexual.
Him: No court don’t think that. That is f***ed. He loved you and probably still does. But he just wants to be single and enjoy it. You guys dated for a long time and very early. He is just about him rn. He didn’t just talk about that. He said a couple other things too court. He isn’t a bad guy. He’s just about him rn. There’s nothing wrong with that
Me:He always said how much he hates hoe’s but now he’s having sex with Julia..
Him: He hates hoes. We all do court. I hate them. But we mainly just want p**** tbh. Julia and her annoying ass group of friends are nothing more then toys. That’s f***ed up I know. But I don’t f*** w them I think they’re gross and dumb as hell. But they want to get some and there easy pickings cause they think there all bad for chillin w seniors smoking dope. But really we don’t even pay attention to them at all.
