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Yeah, my friends and family as well.. They just dont get it and make me even more upset. Yeah sure, actually would be great in urgent situations. I have whatsapp
Things will get better 🙂
This NC is also for you to think about the past mistakes in order for you to be a better boyfriend, if you get back together.. Often time and space is a good thing.. it puts everything into perspective and eventually she’ll miss you so much that she forgets the bad times and just remember the good 🙂 But it can take time so try and be patient.
If you loose all feelings for her if she hooks up with another guy, then so be it. That’s her problem, not yours. For now, just give her space and she’ll let you know when she’s ready to end it completely or get back together. 🙂
I think right now she’s hurt and confused.. and when you’re hurt and confused you do and say things you dont mean. How long were you together?
If she hooks up with someone else just be cool about it. It will be a quick rebound and it’ll be over before you know it. I know it will hurt you, but dont put too much into it.
Showing her that you’ve changed is going to take time. You cant rush it. To start, take 30 days for yourself. In 30 days see how you feel, and then you can contact her. It is here you’ll be showing her that you are trying to change.
Also, not getting with other girls for 30 days will show her a good side of you 🙂It seems in your previous replies that she doesnt trust you around other girls and that you’ve cheated on her. My advice to you, if you really want her back, she needs to trust you again and the for sure wont trust you if she sees you with other girls. You need to show her that she’s the only girl you want. If she sees you with other girls, she’ll just think that breaking up was the best thing.
Go on full NC, it’s the best you can do! But if you see her, don’t be rude to her and don’t start talking about your feelings and the break up.
Go to the birthday party – why not?! You two arent together anymore so you can do as you please, but if you’re trying to get her back, dont hook up with other girls.Yes, you can do that. But make sure that you take him to something that he loves! That way, there’ll be a smaller risk of rejection. If he brings up the break up, talk about it,but dont get all emotional. Act cool, calm and kept together.
Oh yes! Not because I want to go another month without being in contact with him but im willing to do anything to get him back. I’m not sure I’m using the right tactic, but only time will tell. Though honestly I hope he’ll be back in my arms
like yesterday!!!Oh wow, that’s crazy! Glad that you managed to keep relatively calm.. If you see her again, be really nice to her. She will for sure tell your husband and it will baffle his mind.
It’s good you havent heard from him – the No Contact is what you need to do right now! 🙂
Maybe you could get his address from your mother in law?
For my sake, I am not planning on writing anything but the “You might not remember, but back when we met I promised you these tickets. Back then they were sold out but now i managed to get a hold of 2. I hope you’ll bring me.” That will be all. I’m thinking that it will be sweet, make him smile, make me not seem desperate and by saying “i hope you’ll bring me” not demanding that he does bring me. It puts the ball in his court – if he wants to see me, then he’ll invite me to go 🙂 I hope! haha
Yes, I think that the boxing/mma will be a good thing. That way, you will have something to talk about all the time since you can always talk about what you’re watching. Also, it will create a good memory for him and he’ll be reminded of the good times you had. It also shows that you’re making an effort to make him happy. If you’ve been with him for 12 years and you have 2 children together i’m sure you’ll find something to talk about. But 1 thing you must NOT talk about is your break up/getting back together unless he brings it up. You have to be cheerful, happy = be your best self. You could start up a hobby – what stuff interests you?
Oh, I just had another idea. If my ex doenst want to take me to the football match, then i’ll do the no contact for 30 days again and then send him a huge box of m&m’s with a note saying “I know how much you love these. I hope they’ll bring a big smile to your face. Enjoy!”
When I met my ex he fell for me because I always did really sweet things for him but for the past 2 years i haven’t so I think I might get him back if I start doing it again LOL
I’m gonna try and see if I can get a date. I think it’s a good thing. I’d prefer to go with my ex but I’m gonna try and follow some parts of the 5 step plan.
If you don’t want to talk to your husband about the break up/relationship then maybe write something lighthearted like “just went to … it reminded me of you and put a smile on my face”..
When I’m done with my 30 days, I’m thinking of leaving a letter in my ex’s mailbox with 2 football tickets with a note saying “You might not remember, but back when we met I promised you these tickets. Back then they were sold out but now i managed to get a hold of 2. I hope you’ll bring me.”
He might not make a move just yet, which is also why you need to give him more time. If you dont give him enough time, he might just reject you.
No matter what, you still need to go on a date!
For right now, wait 12 days to contact him. If nothing has changed, dont contact him and wait 12 more days from there. What do you want to write him in the text/letter?Yes, but don’t tell your husband that or any of the men your texting 🙂
It’s hard to say at this point – wait and see what happens (how he acts) the next week or so because it seems as though you two will see each other and lots of things can happen. Maybe in 12 days, you need to wait 12 days more. You should probably text him, but it depends what you want to tell him.. 🙂
