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Gwenn: I don’t feel less attractive by his comment. I realize guys will look and appreciate a beautiful woman. I was just wondering what his motives were for doing that because he doesn’t usually comment and/or like anything on FB. Thank you for your kind words. Hugs.

becca75: What exactly are you impressed with? Me giving him a consequence for his disappearing act or me going right into no contact after he broke up with me on his bday? Also, how does this keep him interested?

rider01: My gut feeling said he commented on purpose just to get a rise out of me. I wanted confirmation. I didn’t respond to it at all. Although, I did comment on her post also because I knew he would see it. Here’s what I put:

“I agree with other posters sis, your beauty radiates like the sun and can brighten any room. Hugs.”

Do you really think what I am doing is working? Also, I still haven’t called him yet as I am afraid to because I am still emotional and don’t want him to see this or detect it over the phone. Should I call him or still remain in NC for a little while longer?

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Good morning,

I just got back in town last night. It was too late to call my ex. Although, I don’t know if I should call him or not. I noticed yesterday, on Facebook, he became friends with one of my female friends. She’s a distant friend of mine. She and I talk every 6 months or so on the phone. Nevertheless, she is a friend of mine.

At any rate, she put changed her profile pic on FB to a very nice selfie she took of herself over the weekend. My ex commented on the pic. Here’s what he put as a comment:

“Wowww! Great pic. You are the most beautiful woman I have seen in a very long time.”

My heart fell out of my chest. I was hurt by that comment. He knows she is a friend of mine. Why would he do this?

Please help. I have been in tears over this since I saw the comment.

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KJJ,

I couldn’t agree more that he needs some maturing to do. He definitely didn’t take the relationship seriously. It was apparent because of his disappearing acts. I would always tell him to let me know when he needs space. I even told him if he’s fearful of calling me to let me know, to just shoot me off a text message. The other thing is, I never gave him a consequence for these disappearing acts either. The bday get away was the first time I gave him a consequence and followed through with it. Believe me, I was so looking forward to going away with him. That’s why I booked it. But my way of thinking is, you disappear for 3 weeks prior and finally return my calls on the day we are supposed to leave, you don’t get to go. I wasn’t trying to be mean to him, I was letting him no that his actions either get rewarded or a consequence. His actions this time resulted in a consequence. I honestly don’t feel guilty for it at all. It was his fault that he didn’t go.

When he broke up with me, it seemed more like a temper tantrum then anything but I was going to make him live with that decision. I immediately went into no contact. So when he tried calling me 5 times during the no contact, I refused to answer his calls and wouldn’t call him back either.

Then this past week which was after the no contact period he called a few times. I didn’t answer the calls because he didnt leave a message. He finally called and left a message. To which I responded by text because I’m away. I won’t be able to call him till Tuesday. I’m a bit nervous to call him though. I am totally in love with him. I will not let him know that though.

So you really think he’s not over me and he wants to patch things up? How do you think I should handle things when I call him?

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Hey Gwen,

I’m not sure what he was up to during the 3 weeks he disappeared. I asked him the morning of the 19th and allet he said was he would go to work, come home eat dinner, lounge around, watch TV and go to bed only to do it all over again. You see, this wasn’t the first time he’s pulled the disappearing act on me. Yet, he could never explain to me why he would disappear for weeks at a time. It’s entirely possible he was trying to get my attention during theach weeks he disappears.

I’m still away right now and won’t be able to call him until Tuesday when I get back. Cell service is horrible here.

Do you think the reason he called is to try and patch things up?

Also, why do you think he unblocked me from Facebook?

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