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Listen, the whole point of NC is to better yourself. To find out that you can be okay on your own without your ex, thats what becomes so attractive to your ex. And you absolutely can, but maybe throughout the NC rule you were going through your days simply going through the motions per se, and just waiting for him to call…and guess what he did. But you were not ready for this, because you did not accomplish what you needed to accomplish which is understanding that happiness comes within yourself, not someone else. I think it would be best for you to keep the NC going until you are truly happy on your own, and YOU CHOOSE you still want to be with him. Within this next 2-3 weeks that you set for yourself go out and be happy. Do something every day that makes you happy, and you say WOW im F**ckin proud of myself, and then make every day better than the last. It sounds extremely cliche, but I’m telling you it will benefit you so much. It may not be easy, but you HAVE TO push and make yourself and really try your hardest to be happy WITHIN just you and not WITH someone. You will of course still think about your ex which could make things difficult, but do things for you. Become the attractive brilliant person he fell in love with again, even if he doesnt come back around someone else will because thats the person he fell in love with which means that someone equally as good if not better will come around to you again…and just to brighten your spirits a little bit. He absolutely did not call by mistake. I have used that excuse once or twice, but now since it may have seemed that you were out on a date (the text message you sent was very ambiguous which could be a good thing because now all he is thinking about is who was she with) he once again wants to have the upper hand. But, hey so be it, because you should know deep down that he does not. You do. He misses you dearly, just as much as you miss him I can assure you that. But the only way for him to not have an upper hand on you is for you to keep your 2-3 week rule, and than write him a letter about something great you have done while you two were broken up. Tell him you wanted him to know, because you thought of him when you did it and how amazing it was and he would have enjoyed it. Maybe something that your advising him to try because you know he would love it. I honestly hope my advice helps you. Be strong and Be happy.
