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  • in reply to: What to do, NC over. #1082
    Azula
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    And so my supposed to be 3-day stay in our house becomes an episode of a heavy drama.

    I gave him my letter and it turned out well. He started opening up to me how he sometimes becomes tired of his new GF being so bossy and that she always starts a fight even if he is tired from work. He also started to talk about our common interests and asked about our closest friends.

    His current girlfriend saw me leaving our house for work and that made her think that we’re back together so she threatened to leave my ex if I will not leave immediately. My ex then asked me if I could talk to her new GF and explain why I’m there and as his “friend” now, I did by sending her a text, telling her it’s just for work and we need to settle our shared properties and accounts. Then his GF bombarded me with text messages like “move on girl” “he doesn’t like you anymore,” etc. and she even forwarded the sweet messages my ex sent her. And to my surprise, those are the exact words he used to tell me. I got so pissed off. I immediately packed all my stuff, including all his stuff that I gave him, that include some materials he needs for his work, his cellphone and his laptop.

    That night, knowing that I’m there, his family came over without telling us to have dinner with us, and they were all surprised seeing me packing all my things. I live in a patriarchal country, where a father’s word is a law in a family. His dad asked me to stay because he said, when my ex brought me in that house, I became his responsibility and he should not turn his back on me simply because he doesn’t like it anymore.

    My ex then retaliated and told his dad that he is willing not to become part of that family anymore, if they will insist that we should still stay together as a couple. They almost got into a fistfight. His dad also called his current GF so we could all talk about the situation and about the insulting text messages she sent me but she didn’t showed up.

    His parents are still in our house, trying to work things out for us even if I explained to them that I’m letting go of him. Since his current GF is also his ex before, they said that they know how bad that girl is for him. That insted of making him a better person he becomes worse.

    I felt trapped so I called my younger sister. I cried so much on the phone and that made her worry so much. She then asked my older brother to come and pick me up. My brother will be here tomorrow and I don’t know what will happen.

    Every night, I talk to my ex and tell him that I want to be free and that I’m moving on. I also apologized to him last night about me getting his things and I gave them back to him. We understand each other. My only worry is that his family will really throw him out if he stayed with his current GF and I don’t want that to happen.

    I’m in a whirlwind right now. I just want to share these things and hear some words from you.

    I feel like, I have to start NC again. 🙁

    in reply to: My ex texted me after 2 days #515
    Azula
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    mistahanson101,
    Don’t reply to her unless it is an emergency situation. Not replying to her text will give her something to miss you.

    in reply to: What to do, NC over. #496
    Azula
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    Thank you Kevin.

    Her sister told me it is okay for me to come but he is not ready yet to talk to me because he is still emotional.

    I certainly understand my limitations especially about getting physically intimate. I really hope a can keep a steady mind now that I’m feeling nervous and having some anticipations about us meeting again for the first time after over a month.

    Wish me well!

    in reply to: what if my ex contacts me #449
    Azula
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    Hi mhyy,

    If he tries to contact you, you can reply to him but don’t get too personal like a very close friend or a girlfriend. Keep your conversations short and if you feel like it’s going to become an emotional talk, cut it immediately by saying you need to do something or go somewhere. But remember to always sound positive and happy, don’t sound like you’re a snob. Just talk comfortably with some distance.

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