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guys she said this to me
‘I’ve missed you so fuckin bad
Every night was so hard with out you
All I was thinking of was you
Whether you missed me
And what you were doing’so despite her seeming like everything was fine she really did miss me like crazy and she actually told me that she wished I told her I loved her because she actually thought I had moved on and I didn’t want her anymore and so she was forced to move on, I just didn’t initiate friendship early enough because I was fucking around with NC.
So if you’re going to do NC make sure you do it as early as possible and just imagine a future with your ex and use that as motivation for your NC
She found out I loved her through video I didn’t even intend for her to see so if she never saw that I have no idea how she would’ve ever found out that I still love her 🙁
Thanks @LAbound and @patrick d
Thanks guys. We discussed our old relationship and things we have to do different and so now we are together.
LA how you keeping up?
Thanks Patrick? How’s your situation?
@napoleon loooool no offense taken in fact I would’ve preferred a more harsh advice since it was some quality advice.
I know I need to grow balls
@ghost but if we are in false friendship then won’t there still be some responsibilities like making it seem as though she’s really happy in her relationship or making sure she keeps us as friends and that it doesn’t escalate to anything more
@ghost secure as in knowing she still has me in her life?
I will read it now I started yesterday just got past half way in Step 2
@ghost yeah thats why I am going through NC again I wrote all the things I want to change about myself and am aspiring to change at least one thing every day.
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you’re right that comment has gotten to me regarding the friends thing so it is hard to look past that since she mentioned it a few times :/.
what do you mean when you said ‘That could have been said with or without the new guy.’
you’re right let me just focus on now 🙂
thanks so much.
@ghost so how do I make her realise I still want to be with her without her knowing if I am behaving as though my life without is so well and fine ?
but if I false friendship her wont she just use our conversations for the emotional and mental support that she lacks in the relationship and use that boost to help continue her relationship ?
So after I meet up with her how long after do I meet up with her again?
and do i reach out to her after we meet up or do I wait until she reaches out to me for me to then reward her?
Im guessing until she is mine I always make it seem as though i am full busy and actually fill my days up with activities that make me busy so it’ll convey to her that I am busy and getting on with my life?
@LAbound IKR :O this guy is a legend at reconciliation :O LA what does LC mean ? you mentioned it before ?@ghost so always just comment on what she’s complaining about in a way where it makes her think that this thing is a bad thing LOOL that was so confusing
basically if she reaches out to me with a problem like this one time she said she had stress about her insecurities not being known by her bf, what would a good reply be to her, because she did at one point tell me how scared she was of disclosing her insecurities to him?
I guess I already have the upper hand because she knows what its like to be in a relationship with me right ?
So by false friendship I can essentially show her how the traits that she didn’t like in me that made her feel like we should be going out anymore, are actually traits that I no longer have right?
Do I ever reach out to her during false friendship ?
@LAbound thats how it goes 🙂 put yourself on the pedestal 🙂 good luck and yeah but with more power you have to realise it becomes a more delicate situation that you don’t get ahead of yourself
@ghost if I side the boyfriend won’t I keep giving her the push to go back to her bf ? Essentially helping them two through their problems. I will basically be giving my ex another perspective and potentially keep saving the guys faults and problems :/
Regarding false friendship the main idea is to allow her to see the changes in me right so she realizes I’m a better person and eventually take me back right?
The subtle comments will it be me flirting or just showing I’m not jealous?
so is 30days NC good then?
@LAbound I don’t feel at all I am prepared so I wouldn’t feel as though I am ready for False Friendship.
Whats LC ?
Is it possible that while I am in False Friendship she friend zones me :/
But she doesnt miss me enough so should I do NC for quite a while and let her emotions run wilder because before when she ended it, she didn’t confess anything close to her missing me and now she’s saying it so often like she said it 5 times that she missed something so I might just do NC for a while longer maybe a month to let the feelings towards me and the missing get stronger. What do you think ?
Its because I want to initiate NC and right now I am in no position to take her back because I haven’t made all the changes back.
I havent read the False Friendship bit but I guess the fear of being friendzoned is really scary and I just want to be false friends in the right way
@LAbound really :O you think I came off as jealous :O how so?
I am doing NC now for 30 days and implementing LoA every day and tbh I just couldn’t tolerate how much she was asking of me :/ me to stay me to make it better me to hug her me to just be there for her :/ its amazing how casually she asks her ex to make a situation better between her and her current bf :/ I just cant tolerate it and cant see how she even finds it normal for those requests to be asked.
LA do you think she will start thinking about us as the presence of me fades of away ?
@ghost :/ ‘I’m done’ :O done how :/ ? and tbh I just want her to realise that he isn’t the right guy and want her to really think about their future together and if its what she wants.
