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Morning all. Here is my update. My ex is telling everybody that his head, heart and health can’t take one more round with me. I feel so helpless. Wish there was something I could do to make him see how much I truly love him and want this to work this time.
My advice to you is don’t believe everything you see. She may know you are looking and be trying to get a rise out of you.
I am struggling with no contact today especially after I know he told someone he has had enough with me and can’t go there again. I am the one who left him twice and then he begged me back and I wouldn’t budge and now that I would like another chance he won’t budge. Oh the irony!! He has been liking things on my facebook page. I don’t know how long ago he said the above about me. He is supposedly seeing his ex from 11yrs ago and I say supposedly now cause I am the only one that seems to know about this. He hasn’t even told his closest friends he is seeing her again. I am afraid he thinks he is giving me a taste of my own medicine. Stay strong everybody I enjoy reading each and every one of your posts. Good to know I am not alone.
I meant do nothing while in no contact. I wish I could prove to him that I mean what I say but can’t do that while in NC.
Staying strong is the key especially with NC. With my ex it’s pretty clear he thinks I am full of bull about wanting to really work things out and me not leave again. Not sure what I can do to get through to him. Maybe nothing.
Julia,
I am so happy to have found this site. My ex avoiding me and making some of the choices he is making tells me he is really angry or upset or just truly over me but he wouldn’t be stalking my fb page and telling people I only want him back cause he is seeing someone. I really haven’t been in NC that long I went a whole week and had to start over with it cause I did a no no and text but good news is its getting easier.
Thank you for for being so positive. I really want him back but it’s starting to feel more and more hopeless with each and every day that goes by that I don’t hear from him.
Thanks!! Unfollow will be a big help. I never thought of that. I am just so frazzled at what he is doing after us having such a long history and love that he would rather get back with a cheating ex. I tried to help him with his drinking. Maybe she won’t care what he does and its appealing. Need to stop over thinking it does no good.
Don’t really wanna block him. We have so many of the same friends. This is really hard. Wonder if someone can really rebound back to an ex. Makes no sense to me the whole time we were together he had nothing good to say about her and told me he loved me more than anybody he’s ever been with. How he never wanted to marry her but wanted to marry me. Who knows. Starting today definitely no contact. No matter what he replies to or does on facebook. Nice to know I am not alone.
I haven’t told him to stop contact. I did remind him of her cheating ways but he never commented on it. Have a feeling he may be over exaggerating things with the ex. He works third shift and if he isn’t working or sleeping he is on facebook liking my posts or liking the same things I like. NC is tricky for me at first I did the big no no and send him texts and fb messages trying to win him back. There has only been a week I haven’t contacted him. I gotta do better with it. Hopefully with this board and Kevin’s emails I can do much better. Thanks for the advice. Will take all I can get at this point.
Hi! I am new here. I have a unique situation I wanna share and get peoples take on it and advice. I have known my ex for 17 yrs and we have been together for the past 6 years. We weren’t only boyfriend/girlfriend we were best friends. The first few years were great then he started having an issue with drinking and I left him several times and this last time which has been since February I guess was the last straw for him. He is now dating his ex from 11 yrs ago who he was with for 7 years but she cheated on him more than once and had some pretty crazy behavior. I recently found out she also cheated on her last boyfriend too. Well my ex claims he is happy and has moved on and he and I are done and has said some pretty hurtful things to me. I have tried no contact and he always does something for me to text like commenting on a mutual friend of ours post on facebook agreeing with something she said that was obviously directed to me. I want him back and wanna fix this but he says I should have thought about that before leaving all those times and not being there for him when he got his DUI. He is obviously still so very hurt and angry with me. Not sure what I should do next. Any suggestions I would be grateful for and also he is acting very out of character and not really talking to his friends and family that much. Part of me feels like his actions are to punish me for the choices I made.
Well I have to start over with no contact today. I have been in a panic cause my ex is seeing his ex from 11 yrs ago and she cheated on him more than once. In the beginning I begged and pleaded and sent numerous texts and fb messages. Then after he text me said he wanted to be friends and said some hurtful things cause he is still angry over me leaving him a couple times because of his drinking issue and now that I wanna work things out he doesn’t says I should have thought about that before I left and he is happy with his ex and they have a connection and he doesn’t feel that bond we once had anymore. We were together for 6 years and have been on and off for the past 6 months. He never wanted to marry his ex and said he loved me more than anyone he has ever been with. So after the conversation I started texting again and of course got no response and then a few days ago I sent a text about our friend we have alot of the same friends. Then this morning I called and blocked my number. The typical crazy ex girlfriend thing to do I guess. I would take anybodys input on this and starting over with no contact today. Keeping fingers crossed.
