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March 10, 2015 at 8:57 am #35403
@Tj Thank you so much for the advice!
So if I began to act better, look better, and be independent he will realize it and become attractive again?
I’ve lost 20 pounds since we broke up (thank god!!). Now I am working on toning!
What is attractive in a girl? Looks and personality? Not for just an easy lay but for commitment material?
Not just for this situation but possible future guys!!March 10, 2015 at 10:15 am #35416Be interesting. What makes you different? Over the course of your weight loss did you become a fitness enthusiast? Any man with an ounce of game will not talk about themselves. They will question you on your interest, your career, what you are studying, etc… Physically what makes a girl hot in my opinion is being in shape. I love working out, So whenever I see a slender, not too skinny, woman with an athletic body I am automatically turned on. But I am aware that females come in many varieties. Beauty has no shape or form. Therefore when you see it you must respect it. What are some physical attributes that your friends may compliment you on or even be jealous of? Use those to your advantage and prime them. But don’t only focus on your best attributes; because what if a man isn’t interested in that?
Mold yourself into an all around female. Begin to dress and do things like a woman! Throw away those Ugg boots that you may wear everyday and wear what is appropriate. Stop wearing leggings when you go out and wear a dress. And in my opinion, the only make up woman should use is eye liner. Instead of clogging your face up for an hour trying to impress another man who spent no more than 10 to 20 minutes preparing to meet a woman, make your beauty look effortless.
I will end this comment by giving you a reflection of what ‘i have physically changed about myself. I stopped dressing to impress the male species, and are started dressing to attract people as a whole. I stopped dressing like a boy and started presenting myself as a man. I no longer wear sneakers unless I am going to the gym. I also don’t wear t-shirts in public. I always wear wear button-ups, sweaters, and knitted coats. Boys these days fail to realize that dressing athletic does not impress women, it impresses other boys. And as a man, I am not impressed when I see a boy above the age of 18 in public wearing sneakers, jeans, and a hoodie. The only females that go for these boys are the ones who cheat, are looking to hook up, or have no self esteem. Women who are looking for relationships chase men.
March 10, 2015 at 10:27 am #35420@TJ I am definitely the kind of girl that looks for all of that apporpriate dressing in a man! Haha!
The only make up I wear is under eye concealer because of my dark circle due to allergies! It just makes me look more awake and not sick (even though I probably am! Haha!). And I also wear some mascara just to also make me look more awake. I don’t ever wear eye liner, mascara, blush, or all over the face foundation. I am very natural kind of person and I believe every single person is beautiful in their own way. I am constantly told I am gorgeous without make up or I don’t look any different, but I just use a little but of enhancement. My goal isn’t to take all of my make up and look like a totally different girl!! Haha!!
And what about personality wise?
March 10, 2015 at 12:14 pm #35473Subject: Personality
Many females don’t realize this but acting like a female dog or pushing guys away as is if they are better is not attractive. In fact if you could recall a time where you led a guy on, you were probably extremely nice and outgoing. That’s what guys like. Smile as much as possible, be genuine, and spread energy. Guys are extremely attracted to women that want to be attractive. Meaning that if you are a welcoming person you will get more attention. Now, this does not mean go out of your way and talk to every guy. But when a man whom has potential approaches him do not shun him. Be open and he will fall right in.
March 10, 2015 at 3:26 pm #35509@TJ So I guess I just be myself! Haha! I would never use a guy or lead him on! It just isn’t fair! Hopefully I can find someone who appreciates me for me, and not my ex… Yeah we had something special, but now I am just a piece of meat that he won’t just let go of.
March 10, 2015 at 4:02 pm #35522March 10, 2015 at 4:22 pm #35525He will realize at the same moment you realize and begin to reward yourself with someone who deserves you.
March 10, 2015 at 4:43 pm #35527March 10, 2015 at 6:45 pm #35553Whatever your decision is will be the right thing to do. Your opinion is the only one that matters.
March 10, 2015 at 6:45 pm #35555@TJ wow so true! I have been looking around to see if there might be any guy that is as good as him (he is a man, dresses properly and all) and whenever I see a guy in hoodies and stuff I am just “nah” right away. Quality guys are rare, really…
March 10, 2015 at 8:32 pm #35583March 10, 2015 at 10:13 pm #35607@TJ Yes I have an Instagram! I recently just got back on social media. I deleted all of my social networking accounts when me and my ex first started dating. But his cousin just made me get an Instagram a month ago! Haha!
March 11, 2015 at 7:39 am #35690March 11, 2015 at 11:52 am #35752[removed]
March 11, 2015 at 12:03 pm #35757I hope you don’t mind, I followed as well. But I don’t really use instagram for nnothing else but follow people mainly fitness accounts x)
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