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@patricia12
Thank you for the advice. I make sure not to contact her this time.What I meant in my previous message was what I should say after this one month no contact. I mean, I can’t just say “hey shall we start a relationship again, I fixed all my flaws” and expect her to do this after three months.
Shall I just ask if she would be open to start dating again? See if it works out? I’m not a fan of “playing the game” as if I only want to be friends, as this will only me more. If she really doesn’t want to reconcile or even try, I will move on completely.
@wolph Okay, you could ask if she’s open to start dating again. But at some point you need to ask if she’s willing to consider trying to reconcile by discussing what went wrong and how you both want to fix the relationship so you will both be happy.
Don’t start out by saying “Hey”
Today I found out she removed the last two pictures of us she had on her Instagram. She had me tagged in them and today when looking at my own pictures I saw they were removed from the list.
I haven’t acted on this but I feel a bit shitty about it. I’m afraid she has moved on indefinite now…
I won’t look on her page to find out more information. It does hurt me to be honest that she removed the pictures so late, gives me a lot to think about.
@wolph Sorry to hear she removed the pictures and I understand why you would feel sad about it, but don’t contact her to say anything about it!!
It’s good to hear you won’t stalk her page anymore. Continue no contact..
Today I ended my month of no contact.
I sent her a message via text. I haven’t got a response yet, it’s been a few hours.
I will not chase for a reaction, if she doesn’t respond I will not message her again.I translated the message into English:
Hey [NAME],
Long time no see, how are you? Finally finished school! Congratulations on your bachelor, very well done!I am doing well, I am really feeling good. I put my ego aside and sought help from a psychologist. I’ve been there a few times now and it really helped me to look at myself. I have been able to deal with stressing, bottling up and infinitely worrying, so that I have the urge and energy to do fun and new things again. I learned a lot about myself and got a very relaxed mindset.
A lot has changed, probably with you too and I am very curious about that. I would also still like to read your thesis! I would like to connect with you, would you like to have a cup of coffee or something else with me in the city soon?
If you prefer not to, that is of course also fine.
Greetings
What do you think? Was the message good?
Thank you for your time!
@wolph The message seems fine to me and I hope she replies, but please don’t expect an immediate response. She probably needs time to think about what to say..
How is you job going? Were you laid off because of COVID-19?
Is she in your hometown now? Or if not, how far away?How are you liking your apartment? Isn’t it nice to be independent?
Take care and stay safe:)
Thank you for your message.
Sadly my brother just let me know that she now is in a relationship with someone else.I won’t contact her anymore.
This really sucks.
@wolph Sorry to hear it. Otherwise, I hope you are doing well..
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