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So basically, I and my girlfriend started dating in the last year of high school, and when we went off to unis, we were in relative proper distance, like a 2 hour bus ride. It was going well, then winter break came, and after that, she said she wanted to break up because we started a period of fighting, but when she broke up, she said she didn’t want to and she still loved me, but she felt like this was good for her. I mean, after the breakup, I was kinda pushy and tried to get her back. After that, I did No contact for 40 days, and then when I contacted her on the 18th, she said she was glad about how I was doing and happy for me, but said she didn’t want to talk yet, as things for her are going good for her. What should I do from here? Leave her and start to text her after a few weeks, or wait for her to contact again? She’s in a rebound rn so I don’t want to kinda mess things up.
@Shah6921 How long did the relationship last? You say from the last year in high school, but how long after you started university. And what month of did she break up with you? Why so many arguments??
The distance (2 hour bus ride) might be one of the main factors for her to want to break up with you.
Okay, you contacted her a few days ago (the 18th). Things are going good for her and she’s apparently dating someone else. So I advise you wait and see if she initiates the next contact. In the meantime, don’t obsess about her and focus more on your studies.
@patricia12 It lasted for a year, we started in our last semester of high school, and in one semester in university. And she broke up in January. We usually had arguments over little things like some nights we couldn’t skype each other, or like sometimes just a miscommunication and which lead to worse and worse arguments.
@Shah6921 Arguments are one of the main reasons for breakups! The more arguments there are, the less overall happiness. Resentments can build up if there are too many, even if disagreements are resolved.
I don’t understand why being unable to Skype each other at times would’ve been an issue causing an argument. What were the other arguments about?
Continue no contact..
@patricia12 i mean, we also had a argument because of some reason I said no to something she said, and she got all mad that how i always disagree with her, which i didnt, i usually agreed with her, and how it seemed to her that we wouldn’t go well in the future, because of parent disagreements, and with us being different religions.
@Shah6921 It’s sad you two couldn’t work through any issues there might have been together using proper polite interaction and compromise.
Continue no contact and maybe she will reach out sometime soon.. but if she doesn’t or if she’s adamant that things are going well for her and she’s still happy with the other guy, maybe it would be time to grieve the loss of the relationship and move on.
Then when you’re ready, start dating someone close by.
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