What if no contact has always been your go-to and your ex knows this?

[aneshh]

Hi all
I feel I’m in a bit of a unique situation here and I was hoping to get some advice on how to move forward.

See in all my past relationships, I have always gone no contact, deleted them off social media, and basically just moved on without ever reaching out to them ever again.

My most recent ex is the only one I’ve ever felt like this about. We’ve been no contact since the breakup, but he knows that I don’t stay friends with my exes and he knows I’m doing no contact because that’s what I’ve always done. (We talked about exes during our relationship — he’s still friends with one and I’m not).

So he is never going to reach out unless he comes to the magical conclusion he wants me back. He knows that reaching out would just hurt me and he doesn’t want to do that.

So it’s definitely up to me to reach out… But I feel like the moment I do he’s going to know it’s because I want to get back together – he broke up with me, it was definitely not mutual.
I’m not sure how to follow the EBP advice from where I’m standing. What do I do?

[patricia12]

How long was the relationship and what reasons did he give for breaking up with you?

When was the breakup?

If the reasons weren’t serious as in alcohol or drug abuse, cheating, and extreme jealous accusations, he might reach out if you stay no contact.

Apparently he knows you didn’t want the breakup, but he chose to do it. Therefore, you shouldn’t contact him first as it will make you look desperate and pathetic. But if he contacts you, don’t ignore him. And depending on what he says, respond appropriately.

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