What are your thoughts

[kathleen]

Should I just write something like –
Hope you’re ok you don’t look very well hun 😓

I don’t want to insult him or anything
But something just doesn’t seem right

[patricia12]

@kathleen Stop hounding him. Apparently he feels well enough to play games/quiz with his friends. Start no contact again! If he doesn’t even care enough to contact you during this COVID-19 outbreak to ask how you’re doing, he’s not very interested in you..

[kathleen]

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I’m not hounding him with messages so not sure where you got that from! We’ve not spoken in days so not sure how that is hounding someone
I’m doing NO contact again as seems his got other problems going on as he looks like complete rubbish, says his stressed out. So clearly doesn’t want to talk to me about it.

[patricia12]

@kathleen You wrote that 9 days prior the the 22nd, you reached out and had a chat with your ex.. You told him you don’t want to be a back-up plan. He said he’s feeling much better. You added him to Instagram. After that, you heard nothing from him. Then on Tuesday (the 24th) You contacted him again. He said work is rubbish. You asked him why he hadn’t reached out to you. Hours later he wrote back saying he was about to start a quiz. Then you contact him again saying “enjoy your quiz..maybe we can Face Time or call..

It seems you’re the one chasing and initiating contacts. Yes, he’s stressed out, but that’s been going on for awhile and it’s nothing new. Even if he didn’t want to talk with you about his work situation, he could have initiated a contact with you to ask if you’re okay.. but he didn’t.

Glad to hear you’re doing no contact again!

[kathleen]

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But that doesn’t mean I’m
‘ hounding him ‘ with messages does it reaching out to someone to see how they are.
Hounding someone is sending texts every 5 minutes which I am NOT doing. Think that’s the wrong word to put.
Perhaps stop reaching out would of been the correct term.

Which I have stopped doing as it’s extremely clear he has a problem in his own life and does not want to talk to me about it.
I am now talking to a counselor due to covid – 19 is causing me to have some anxiety and also due to the problems with my ex. They’ve given me some great advice and said it’s possible too this is effecting him.
Iv actually even removed his number out my contacts.
You can even see from his face he looks tired eyes all puffy looks scruffy and lost some weight. I have decided to unfollow him too on Instagram but he continues to follow me. The counselor I speak to said not to block him right now as due to everything that’s going could cause major problems.

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