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We were only in a relationship for about 5 months before she broke up. Does that mean that our relationship is doomed forever?
At first, we had very intense connection. Now I still had it, I am not sure she is still. We are still in talking terms after she broke up. She said it is because she no longer feel attracted to me and she is in a very difficult time of her life.
We both had previous relationship before, but for me, this is the first time I have had such a strong feeling. Am I just an immature guy with puppy love? (I’m 30). Since the break up, I cannot stop thinking about her. She says she also thinks about me sometimes. I don’t know if I can find love ever again if I loose her and I feel terrified with the thought of ME loving someone else.
I start doing no contact today after one month since the break up. Everyday since last month, I am dying inside with the thought of her gradually moving on forever.
Please say something. I know it was only 5 months but it can still work, right? I love her. I didn’t realize how much I need her until we broke up. Now everything become meaningless to me. Now I only want one thing and one thing alone: To build a happy family with her and to grow old with her.
But is it just me being selfish? I just really want to spend the rest of my life making her happy and spending time with her. I has already decided that I will not give up and I will wait even if she meets new guys. Am I just being a child now? Someone, please say something to me.
“Does that mean that our relationship is doomed forever?” ..”Am I just an immature guy with puppy love?” ..”I don’t know if I can find love ever again if I loose her and I feel terrified with the thought of ME loving someone else.” ..WOW! You make this all sound so melodramatic.
Other than not feeling attracted to you anymore, did she give any other reasons for the breakup? And when you say you had an intense connection, does that mean intense sexually? Does it mean you two devoted every spare moment with each other thereby a smothering type connection?
Why do you think she lost attraction for you?
What difficulty is she going through?
It’s too early to determine if the situation is doomed. You’re only 30 and if this doesn’t work out, you have many years ahead of you to find love again.
You need to continue no contact in order for her to think more clearly as to what she wants in life.
I can see how my post is melodramatic. But I just felt that way. I have been in a panic constantly since she left and that is just how I felt.
She said she had problem with her life (her family is a bit dysfunctional and have financial problem) and also she felt depressed because she does not know what to do with her life. I am a bit more financial well-off than her but she is very proud and independent and hates the thought of marriage for financial stability.
In addition, she felt that I bore her and also I sucks at sex. I have a small penis I could not please her as previous partner(s).
I know I might be able to find love again but right now the thought of her and I moving on forever and loving different persons frighten me. Right now I really do not want to love any other person.
Update: I could not contain myself and reach out to her today. We had a great time chatting the whole day but I afraid for tomorrow. She is still very friendly to me. Hope she won’t turn cold tomorrow.
On the other hand, I don’t know how to continue no contact after this. I think I fucked up a little bit.
Dysfunctional family and “In addition, she felt that I bore her and also I sucks at sex. I have a small penis I could not please her as previous partner(s).”
All these problems in only 5 months. This is not a normal happy relationship. I think I read another post where you sent her gifts? You can’t buy her love and you seem too desperate! Stop chasing her and start no contact again. She will understand why you’re doing it as she is not trying to apologize for what she said or to make amends.
Start dating other women and sooner or later you’ll find one who enjoys your company and with whom you can satisfy sexually..
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