Told my ex I’m doing no contact

[earlgreylavender]

Hello everyone,

my ex said after the break up that he wanted to be friends with me and have a platonic relationship. I told my ex that I need to take some time alone, probably one month or so, before I can start being friends again, whatever that definition of ‘friends’ turns out to be.

Did I ruin my chance since I was indirectly telling him that I’m going to do no contact for a month? Or should I just extend the NC period so that he will start to wonder why I haven’t contacted him after the one-month period is over?

I also told him that I’m doing a 30 Days Social Media Detox which I later on realized wasn’t a good idea because it revealed my Radio Silence technique.

Would really appreciate your thoughts. I’m worried if my chance is ruined now. 🙁

[Khanh Le]

I also had the same question. I was so afraid that my ex will move on that I told her that I will stop talking to her for only 1 month. Did I fuck up?

Also, 2 days after no contact she just messaged me out of the blue with a “hi”. I could not stop myself from jumping into replying to her. She ignored that and later when I comment a “are you ok” on her facebook post. she restricted me so now i can only see her public posts which are only 3.

So please guys, and gals, would you kindly answer OP’s post and my post as well? This is very hard. I feel like dying inside.

[patricia12]

Earlgreylavender – What he means by platonic is a friendly relationship without sex or he could be thinking of “friends with benefits” which is a sexual relationship without commitment. You could ask him, but I don’t think you really want either type..

How long were you together? Was it mostly a good relationship with positive interactions, respect, trust, and lots of good memories?

You didn’t ruin your chances simply by telling him about no contact. If you maintain no contact indefinitely, he might regret the breakup and contact YOU. Don’t give in to the temptation of contacting him first as it will reveal your desperation.. Give him space and time to miss you and reconsider.

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