Thoughts about my situation?

[bas231]

So essentially, I was in a LDR with a girl for about a month, we had been talking for basically 3 months but she only confessed got feelings for me after 2 months basically. We did have a few arguments over minor things, mostly me being silly but those got solved. However, 2 weeks back we had an argument (over her ghosting me) where I accused her of not telling the truth and it didn’t get solved. Later, she told me she no longer had feelings for me and unfortunately I acted quite clingy, kept messaging her, even when she didn’t respond, attempted to call her twice etc. She told me that I was “annoying”. I acted needy too, apologising a lot etc, saying I didn’t want to lose her etc. I tried to not contact her after that, but 3 days later I couldn’t help it and broke no contact, tried to joke around with her but it ended up going into serious talk again and I asked her why she was treating me this way, why she was being cold and tried to bring up good past memories (I know, you aren’t meant to do this). She told me she’d reply later, then a day later when I told her not to worry she asked if I couldn’t wait a week or two for her to reply, when I asked her why she said because she was “stressed out, had other things to worry about blablabla”. (this was obvious bs as she is online on whatsapp often as well as on the site we met). I told her I understood she needed space and tried to make a joke but she just left it on read. Now i’m trying to go no contact, but i’m finding it extremely difficult and its only been 2 days in. I just want to message her and tell her how much I miss her. I’m worried she’ll just find another man in that time, either on the site we met or in real life and that she won’t reach out and contact me first (im doubting that she will). I know this is quite a futile endeavour and that it has no chance of succeeding, but I talked to this girl almost everyday for the past 3 months and even had a 4 hour call with her. Worst of all, we were close to meeting before the argument which makes me feel even worse. Any thoughts? I know this situation is hopeless, but any advice?

[patricia12]

Curious as to how far apart are you from each other?

Good grief! She told you she needed space and you should have enough respect for her request and self control NOT to contact her. You seem obsessed about a long distant girl you never met and a 3 month conversation is not a relationship! She is not obligated to answer your intrusive questions.

Too many arguments, being too silly, and you being an annoying needy person are all good reasons for her to want to distance herself from you.

Try no contact for a month or two because right now she has too many negative thoughts about you..

The best case scenario would be for you to find a local girl to date.

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