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Like the rest of us here you have two choices. Try to keep working on it or say f**k it and shut off the lines of communication and work on yourself.
I know how you feel. I have had a couple of messages from my Ex this morning but I don’t feel any better for it.
She just seems a bit cold and distant from me again at the minute and I sense that she is about to crush my hopes and break my heart again.
I’m trying not to jump to conclusions but I can just sense that something isn’t right at the moment.
He’s gone cold on me and it worries me…I want him to snapchat me daily again. Just aryyan how crappy I was yesterday…
If u love her, just keep false friendship no matter how hot and cold is she. Believe me. Women is more soft than men no matter how hard. If u keep maintain support, do random things and make her feel interesting back, u can gain her trust back. Believe me. She is not the one who want to leave it means she still love u. And u are ine of the best. Its berrryyy hard to find better person than u in very short time period. Trust me. I know. Im a woman too. Yes i might be hard a bit with my ex bf because i want him to chase me and i want to know whether he is willing to take my “hard” and make it soft. Did u get what i mean? Oh ya did she clingy and needy when u dumped her?
Did u text him? It might seems he is being hot and cold because he thought u are not interested in him? Did u just go with the flow and not think too much whenever he text or snapchat u?
@confused_girl I feel the same. I had spoken almost every day to my Ex since NC ended on 30th November up until 27th December.
She has given me the feeling that she is about to date someone else again over the last couple of days – constantly online on Whatsapp all day and until the early hours of the morning on either her own phone or her sisters.
I realise that this could be a test and there might be nothing in it, but that behaviour over the last week and her telling me about a trip that she has planned for next weekend has me seriously worried that she might be telling me that she has moved in to yet another rebound relationship. Just as I thought we had been getting on well and making some proper progress with eachother.
I feel like crap again at the minute and she has sensed it I think.
I tried snapchatting him and he didn’t reply. He didn’t really snapchat anyone yesterday. He has to work today so. And I told him why I haven’t been replying
@aryyan No she wasn’t clingy or needy when I dumped her. She has been very tough the majority of the time but she subconsciously does things that let me know how she really feels and what she really thinks.
@aryyan Here are today’s messages after the silly one that I sent in the early hours last night…
Her – “Hi hun, I am talking to you just been really busy recently, how are you? Xxx”
Me – “I’m ok I think thank you. I’m scared of saying too much as I don’t want to say anything that might upset you so I will just say that although I have been quiet I am thinking about you and I do miss you a lot.. Hope everything is ok? xxx”
Her – “Just talk hun don’t be scared as if its some thing I don’t like il tell you in a adult manner xxx”
Me – :”It’s ok I realise that I am just probably being silly. I’m just worried that you are about to hurt me again. I am not sure that you are ready to put in the necessary care to allow our friendship to flourish. I don’t want to push you away but I just wanted you to be aware of my feelings xxx”
I have had her claim that she is just busy before and I remember where that led, hence my worry.
See. No matter how tough she is. She still let you know how she feels and update about her. Did u see that? @Sparky, only you know her well. Only you know whats the thing that can make her heart soft. Women can be soft as tissue even she is stubnorn like a rock
Since he didnt snapchat to everyone, it means he is a bit busy and some works need to be done as you said. Just wait. Dont force him. Support him.
@aryyan There is nothing in the above that lets me know how she currently feels.
Genuine affection and being able to see through the tough exterior that she puts on show to most of the world is what makes her soft and turns her on I think. She always made out that she disliked that I could see through her tough exterior but I think that this is the reason why she is so close to me because I have tried to understand her like no other.
I think you just need to keep support her and keep maintain friendship with her. Try to be close with her. I know she is being hot and cold but from the way she text u. Its still fine for me. U have no idea how hot and cold my ex bf when we were text. For me, u still lucky. Does not matter whether she seems busy until she didnt text u or being hor and cold at least, she let u know that she is busy. I know u are worried that much. Just be your self be person who she fell in love with. Since u are the best in her life. Maintain it and be the best whether in terms of friend or not. For my oppinion, no matter how long u did try, just maintain it as false friendship or anything that can make u guys communicate. We never know in the future. It may takes time until u feel give up. But u know ur ex better. She is one of tough person, so u have to be tough in order to make her soft back. Remember. Only u can make her soft. If she allows u to do that, u are very lucky
WhAtever your exes text u and give u respond, remember just go with the flow. If they are hot and cold but still be able to text you guys to update about them, accept it. Dont question it. Believe it. You know your exes better. For me u guys are very lucky. My ex bf very hot and cold and he didnt even update his life to me, he did not even say why he didnt reply. He ignored me totally. Plus he still ok with his gf. So i think, u guys still betyer. They still keep calling you guys with sweet name like hun, unlike mine, he didnt even say anything or even mention how lovely am i. He didnt. So, whatever ur ex reply u, just keep going the conversation. This opportunity is not easy to get. 🙂
He update again and this is the worst. He said “that feeling when she wrapped her arms around you”
Oh my. I completely lost him. I completely lost him!! I cant stop crying. Not this time. Oh god. Why he got his happiness and not me!! I deserve him for second chance! Oh my
I supported him through everything he went through while we were dating. I would still support him but he doesn’t talk to me…I don’t want him on meet me. He knows that site is terrible. Even though we met on there…but him and I are perfect together. Seriously. I just wish he knew how sorry I am and that we would get back together. This feels so difficult now
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