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There’s no need to be scared just try do as a.z suggests and be cool, don’t talk about anything personal and just act like she is a normal friend. Good luck!
You’re not in competition with anyone.You should just be the best version of yourself.Don’t worry about anything.You have been doing well and you will be fine.
Take everything slow.Be cool and confident.Ok I have a question.although me and my ex agreed to go our seperate ways which I regret that I agreed to it…and then a week later she’s seeing someone then 2 and half weeks later after that they are in a relationship.my question is does that put the power in her hands by replacing me so fast and getting Into a relationship at the snap of a finger or does that mean that she may jus be insecure about being alone.even tho she may deny that she isnt. I wonder this becuz the letter I sent her made her send me an email.nothing negative at all but I didn’t respond to it.today was the first time me going to the same school as her and I didn’t incidentally bump in to her by any chance. I feel like I want to text her but I’m not getting an urge to at all..I’m going along with the no contact but how will I ever kno if she is ever thinking about me or even wants to be with me again..especially if this new relationship blooms into something special
Even tho I feel like I want to text her sonething should I jus bide by the no contact rule and jus stay strong
a.z (et al) – hope you’re all doing well.
I am almost a week into my NC period, and it will be over a week when my ex comes by my building later this week to pick up the last batch of her mail. I’m trying quite hard to keep to the NC, but I was thinking that perhaps I should prepare a letter from me to her and include it for her to find.
Thoughts?
If I do write a letter, what should I include in it?
Many thanks,
ROk I have a question.although me and my ex agreed to go our seperate ways which I regret that I agreed to it…and then a week later she’s seeing someone then 2 and half weeks later after that they are in a relationship.my question is does that put the power in her hands by replacing me so fast and getting Into a relationship at the snap of a finger or does that mean that she may jus be insecure about being alone.even tho she may deny that she isnt. I wonder this becuz the letter I sent her made her send me an email.nothing negative at all but I didn’t respond to it.today was the first time me going to the same school as her and I didn’t incidentally bump in to her by any chance. I feel like I want to text her but I’m not getting an urge to at all..I’m going along with the no contact but how will I ever kno if she is ever thinking about me or even wants to be with me again..especially if this new relationship blooms into something special
think you nailed it on the head thinking she is scaredof being alone. I mean you say not even 3 weeks and shes in a new relationship? hm rebound. Now idk if your in high school or college. I just started college and believe or not even tho she was the one who encouraged me to go i am actually getting into it and even tho im only in school half a day i find it takes up a lot of my day where i really dont pay her much thought. I also have a night job so on a day likke today i work half the day then school half the day. I think you also answered your own question but are thinking about it to much bud, you asked “how will i know if she’s ever thinking about me” but you said you sent her a letter and she RESPONDED NEXT DAY. Whereas you sent the time to sit down and write her a letter she got on the computer and EMAILED you asap. Obviously she is thinking about you. Now her new relationship? I doubt it turns into anything but what if it does? Or what if it doesn’t turn into anything but they are together for awhile? Well ask yourself? Do you honestly think her and this guy got potential? Down the road when your not hurting become a friend, let her know you care but not secretly want her back, one day she’ll want you back and regret everything. But that may mean time, may mean multiple boyfriends, may even mean you date in the process. Biggest think man is keep faith and dont harp on it TOO much
Danmurphy919
I’m in college by the way this is my second bout to be third year..and thankyou so much for the advice man I really appreciate it
bro, like i said man, time. If i was you i wouldn’t even worry about getting your EX back right now, id worry about getting your FRIEND back (when of course your ready). Become her friend and then fall in love with her (and if timings right she’ll be parrallel to you in this) all over again
And what If she never comes around to saying nothing to me during the no contact rule and what if after the 30 days is over with I still here nothing from her? I really miss her a lot and even tho I haven’t seen her at the college we both go to it’s kinda making me that much more anxious to want to see her..I haven’t texted her or even called her even tho I been kinda hesistant but not really.
After no contact is over how do I break that awkwardness between me and her? Because honestly I don’t text her because I don’t have anything to say to her
OMG alright so I’m at school this Morning college by the way and I seen my ex walking to the computer lab..i was engaged in an conversation and I jus turned my head and there she was walking down the hallway.its like nothing else matter and me and her locked eyes and waved at each other.i approached her and kept it very subtle .. I jus asked questions like how r u? Did u get your classes? How’s work? And I notice she kept smiling at me and then I said we’ll I have to go it was very nice seeing you. An do left. So what’s next for me and am headed in the right direction towards getting my ex back
question 1 : 30 days really depends on you, if you think that at 30 days you can contact her and handle possible rejection then go for it. If you don’t think you can handle possible direction or think that you guys will pick right back up where you left off then wait
question 2 : i can’t answer the first part because i am thinking that too. I like to think (not in my case because i pushed things to far) that while i hesitate to call her she’s sitting somewhere also hesitating to call me. Keep faith is the bottom line
question 3 : step 4 has some great suggestions, but if your not the texting person (couldn’t really understand you issue) then try an email again. Worked the first time didn’t it? Just remember to takes things SLOOOOOOOOW
OMG alright so I’m at school this Morning college by the way and I seen my ex walking to the computer lab..i was engaged in an conversation and I jus turned my head and there she was walking down the hallway.its like nothing else matter and me and her locked eyes and waved at each other.i approached her and kept it very subtle .. I jus asked questions like how r u? Did u get your classes? How’s work? And I notice she kept smiling at me and then I said we’ll I have to go it was very nice seeing you. An do left. So what’s next for me and am headed in the right direction towards getting my ex back
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