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Come on…she was in love with you, those feelings don’t go away 2-5 weeks is still too soon in my opinion. She was just hurt and is trying to repair the damage and is using this guy!
I know Im being stubborn, but as I said before, she told me she doesnt love me anymore more than a half year ago, we lived like brother and sister for half of year as I wasnt able to leave my job. She wanted me to move out earlier…
Do not take those words too seriously. Read many success stories on her, and they will detail how their ex said they did not love them anymore. Just carry on doing the right things, I am sure she misses you.
How are you today?
Not sure what to think. My ex locked down her Facebook after breakup and when I went crazy. Last week, she made her profile picture public, which she never usually would do, although set it to private the next day. She changed it to a new picture two days ago and has since kept it public. I know I am grasping at straws, and she has not even unblocked me, but I know how careful she had been in the past. At the very least, she is not ad closed off, maybe due to no contact. Who knows. I take anything as a sign now. I have felt withdrawn today, due to the fact I may never get her back 🙁
Hey, after talking to you I realized I was a douche to her mother (which I like) aswell, so I contacted her and asked if we could speak on skype today, she agreed. I want to apologize to her, Im not gonna talk about my ex. Kinda afraid shes gonna tell me things about my ex I dont really want to hear. We will see.
I was thinking and I think you should try to be around her and let her see your changes. Of course do it if you are 100% sure you can control yourself and you understood your mistakes, if not – it might backfire. Make it look random. She loves you, she told you that, if you are truly changed man she will notice it. Also, be cool about the other guy, being negative will only push her towards him. Its just an option, you are the only one who knows if you are ready for such stuff.
I am pleased I could help. Let me know how it goes!
Ha, no chance of that. No mutual friends and she lives far away. If I turned up, she would probably get scared. Totally hopeles. I will probably give up soon.
Dont give up, be a better man for yourself. When she sees you are living happy life as a changed man she will reach out to you.
Another day, still no contact. :/
The only way she can see me is through twitter and Facebook. And I am silent on both.
Keep strong! You are doing the right things! She will begin to wonder.
The problem with me is that Im having trouble believing in this rebound thing, I just dont feel it works like this, I havent seen any examples which fit my situation.
I believe in your case it would be. She just doesn’t want to be lonely. I am getting paranoid again. I fear as if she has moved on. I saw that her parents didn’t like her newest profile picture, which they always do. I think she may have deleted them, as she did after we split.
But this may be about the other guy. Maybe they do not like him. And maybe she is fighting harder for him 🙁 I just want to give up. There is no hope for me.
You dont know that, maybe she was arguing about you. How can their parents not like him? They made her date that guy, come on.
Ive read some stuff on other sites about rebound and i feel that shes already moved on when we were living together like brother and sister.
Well they tried adding him to Facebook and he didn’t accept. It wasn’t because they liked him. They just wanted her to breakup from me and to move on.
I would keep up no contact. Maybe 60 days of no contact? She will miss you eventually. She probably already is. She seems to have moved on too quickly. Try not to worry. You still have a lot of hope!
I doubt more than 30 days of NC is any good. You help your ex get over you, thats my opinion tho. If she doesnt love me, well then… any NC wont help. She is happy without me.
Those fights in their family are… good for you, that means not everything is clicking as it should. Have faith.
NC is not just about your ex, but about yourself too. You need to heal too. And it’s not just about getting her to miss you, but erasing those bad memories and her forgetting you as this needy desperate guy. You will come back a new you and start a new relationship.
Do not worry, she won’t get married if you leave it longer. She won’t go away.
I am trying, so so hard. I fear I have done way too much now. I was absolutely psycho for so long.
Well, I spoke to her mom, it was weird… I apologies for being a douche back then, she said I dont have to be sorry, but its very nice of me. She asked me about my life, am i going back to finish my studies, do i have anyone. I told her about quitting my addiction, she seemed to understand and said its good for me. I also told her that I regret being an asshole, but I cant do anything to change the past and I cant get my ex back, so I need to move on, she agreed… She said she knows I really loved her daughter.
About the new guy, we also spoke about it. My ex was having hard time even before I moved out, when she was talking with her mom when I was still there she was saying stuff like “this is not life”, “im lonely”, “I cant live like this”, “I cant change him, I cant cope”. My ex had hard time after I moved out, her family was helping, but then the guy appeard, he was helping her thru hard times, she told him about everything, he understood and well, they are together… She told her mother that he helped her a lot and he is very smart.
At least I know why she is not contacting me, she thinks its for the best for the both of us. Her mom asked me to contact her after a while, so she knows how am i doing.
Dont know what to think…
Sounds like his purpose was to help her get over you.
I think your ex needs to see that you have moved on, if you see to get her back and start a NEW relationship.
Please, take this advice. You can get her back. But only if you convince yourself that it is over and she will never get her back. This will help you get over her, and only then will you have a chance.
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