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That’s true. But she used that against me. Pretended she was working, when she saw him instead. Jeez. I need to stop getting angry first.
How is your day going? You seem to be in a good frame of mind.
I can understand your paranoia I would be the same, you need to let go of the anger, pain and resentment because it’s only hurting you not her. You are stronger than you think, the more you see that the more it will become easier.
I’m having a good day, seeing the positives for me, it’s day 9 NC and its getting easier, I believe what’s meant to be won’t pass you by.
Keep looking forward and no matter what keep smiling even if it hurts and your crying whilst smiling it helps the soul.
Thanks Caz. Means a lot. I am certainly seeing the relationship from a different perspective and discovering what went wrong. Although the parents were still a major factor, and who knows how long they had been pushing her to split.
Day 10 will feel good 🙂 are you looking at his facebook for signs that he misses you? I am waiting to see if my ex unblocks me.
You will see things differently because you are looking from the outside in, her parents cannot control her forever she will end up resenting them.
I could wake up tomorrow and be back to the start but I can’t believe its day 10 and I haven’t text, I won’t lie I still get urges but I remind myself with what you said “become the hunted not the hunter” he’s completely blocked me so I have no idea which is better for me
Yes, I made her block me twice. I made other accounts, which is so bad. I had the account, which I was using when I saw that she didn’t block me. That is the same account I spoke to her parents on. I ended up calling them crazy and saying I didn’t want anything to do with their family and logged off. I then found they had blocked me. So I made a different account to send them a message of apology, and later sent them those bad messages.
I think we do need to become the hunted, but also be the prize and show them that we have changed at the same time. I no longer get urges to text. It is good that you are restraining yourself, keep it up! If you ever get a big urge, post here and then we can analyse it, if it helps.
Everyone on here can agree we have all done stupid things when out ex’s broke up with us, we’ve all gone crazy and messaged people who are closest to them to make them see sense and how angry that they had any influence.
Thank you @libertine1 means a lot to know I have support from people who are going through the same thing and not been told “move on” “he’s not worth it” they don’t understand that he’s MY ONE
Exactly, I feel the same. I had mixed responses from friends, some told me to leave it and that there is no hope. But I think we have both been alive long enough to know when someone is special.
I think my case is extreme, texting non stop from early Oct until Mid Dec without a response, sometimes obsessively and threatening suicide, telling her parents we had sex, even though I knew how much this would hurt her and her family. At one time I pretended to be a friend texting from my phone, saying I was at hospital because of her. I later apologised and told her it was a lie. It makes me cringe when I think of those things.
When someone goes through heart break its the mind that plays tricks, we are so needy for that person to leave us we would do anything to have them not leave us. It makes you cringe now because you see the error of your ways but now you know it wasn’t good and you can focus on this!
She will but in time, you have to back away now for her to see what you meant to her and get rid of all the negativity.
Thanks, your words mean so much to me 🙂 Day 10 tomorrow! Only 2 more periods like this and we are onto 30!
And yours do to me! Exactly we can do it 🙂
Surround yourself with positivity and positive things happen…one step at a time
We are on day 10! How do you feel?
Today, I am a lot better. I am thinking of the harm I can do with angry words, but also taking her down from the pedestal and realising how insecure and badly she treated me.
Also, I am looking for signs that tensions may have thawed, including on Facebook, such as her unblocking me – or even stating she is in a relationship with the other guy with no fear or repercussions from me.
I think it is a good thing if she is still with him, as the only reason behind it was m. And the only reason they are probably still together is due to my behaviour. But rebounds mostly end, so we will see.
Hey @Libertine, I know we are doing really well, GO us.
I’m feeling ok, I got the job that I wanted which I wouldn’t have done if we were still together, so positive. I also have a date tomorrow 🙂 How are you?
Your right angry words can destroy a lot, I send a lot of angry texts when we broke up but now I know it just pushed him further away.
She will soon come to realise it was just a rebound and was just replacing you with her loneliness, all rebounds do end.
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