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October 16, 2014 at 12:47 am #12027
be strong and this time do not break NC please…. Creed has valid point, you shouldn’t have msged in 8 days… And even I broke NC.. I can understand what you must have been going through.. We all do mistakes, even though somewhere in our mind we know that breaking NC will never help…. Lets pray for each other.. I hope everyone here feels happy in the end…
October 16, 2014 at 1:51 am #12032Even I hope the same…..let every gets their love soon
October 16, 2014 at 7:17 am #12051ugh its so hard. it seems like shes moving on.. and quick.. shes on a long term dating website.. she changed her facebook profile picture.. and shes looking at moving out of her mothers.. i dunno if its by herself, she may be able to afford the place but the prospect scares me.
October 16, 2014 at 7:44 am #12052We have nothing to loose…. The only thing that can happen is, we will win someday.. We need to be patient… Just hope the best please…
October 16, 2014 at 10:09 am #12079stay strong, I know its a hard situation for you and your freaking out. how long have you been no contact for already? also have you been working on yourself? try to keep yourself busy to not think of her much. also try to not stalk her your only hurting yourself. :-/ you can do this. π
October 16, 2014 at 4:58 pm #12164well we broke up 13 days ago and i messaged her on the first day after we broke up.. then 8 days in and i guess its 4 days into this no contact. i have been leading a busy life sorting out things with a new job and a loan, hair cut and getting new clothes on the weekend.. have had interviews to go to. thanks its just.. i dont know what shes doing.. why is she with her ex which she told me she could only tolerate him when shes high? he stayed over last night, pretty sure shes supposed to have work today and him, i mean there might be a reason she isnt today but the fact hes there with her.. it kills me.
i just dont understand. she made an account on a long term relationship website.. all the things she says shes looking for are me.
she wants;
We are highly attracted to each other
They openly listen and communicate
They share their thoughts and desires
They resolve conflicts rather than win arguments
They are affectionate
They are hard workingshe doesnt want;
Dependent on me for their happiness
Intolerant of others beliefs
Financially Irresponsible
A person with intrusive relatives and friends
Flirtatious with others
Always late
Doesn’t have kidsill mark the ones she might not think were me in bold
even if she does find someone like that, i dont think she’ll be happy as we used to lead very messed up lives. she actually told me a saved her life. which is probably true.
October 16, 2014 at 11:26 pm #12206There is one more thing she wants from a guy that she did not put on the list: Attraction! She needs to be attracted to the guy and in love…
All relationsships that fails, fails due to lost of attraction. The attraction may fade due to many reasons, but still: Lost of attraction is the reason they leave us. In this case you know why the attraction disapeared.
But she wants a partner in her life, and it is a good thing that it fits those qualities that you have to offer….
After the NC when you need to make her attracted again, you know what qualities she likes about you and you know what qualities to show off πOctober 17, 2014 at 12:47 am #12210hahah yeah i guess i did forget to include that one… guess im just used to the idea that she thinks im attractive. never thought about it before but she found me more attractive than i realised.. she never straight out said it, but made remarks like, you could be a model, or when i was shirtless ‘you should stay like that’ and other things about myself. and i dont mean just in physical attraction. we did respect each other and i acted as a man. and she respected that. there were times were i could have acted better. and she lost respect for me because of them (shameful, i know. cant be great all the time) and we talking about that actually and i know it is one of the reasons she lost attraction to me. that and my job search wasnt going as well for me as it was for her,and the fighting. we were both unfortunately suspicious of each other. i guess it came with knowing how clever each other could be.
i will admit i am worried though. Shes looking at moving out. i know i guess it doesnt really mean anything or change anything. one of the places shes looking at is like a 5 minute walk from mine. the others are much further. dont really know what to make of it.
October 17, 2014 at 6:07 pm #12338could i get some support please?
October 21, 2014 at 8:02 am #12688Yeah i agree you should apply no contact for at least 30 days…give her time and space to miss you again
October 22, 2014 at 7:59 pm #12891yeah i agree. it definitely needs to be done. dont know how long i should give her but being able to see her search history and what she likes on facebook is a major advantage to me to see what she feels at the time. i know i shouldnt do it, both for me and her but i can handle it. if it doesnt work out i ccan and will accept that.
October 22, 2014 at 9:22 pm #12899hello kevin ,
thanks i find your article im so broken today im in a long distance relationship he live in new zealand i live to philippines we met in dating site.. we been together for almost 8months and now we broke up this month..seriously im the one who break up wth him even i still love him so much.. HE says also his problem that he cn’t afford to get me bec. his a single dad and he is paying for his mortrage and bills if he saved money it takes a years for that..he loves me but he have his own priority he dn’t want his son to suffer that. so here we are break up but we still talking but some changes happen he change his fb cover photo his status and now i saw him accepting girl friends now..im so jealous and i cn’t help it so i told him about my jealousy..he say it doesn’t mean his chatting it means he is flirting he just do that because he want not to think of me everyday..he say he is not really move on and he still love me..this morning he saying he love me even i hate him..he is crying just because of thinking we can’t nver be together and he is wishing hope we can.but now he feel lost and don’t know what to do..i try to ignore him..i ask my friends to change my passoword fb but i have other account but we keep communicating but know it kills me seeing some of new friends liking her photos .its kills me realy and so hurt ..im scared to let him go.i want him to do something if he really want me but it hurts just he don’t have a choice just to let go but he keep saying im her dream girl and im the only one feel love ..
i don’t know wht to do really..i was planning to do the no contact rule but its hard because i know he still send me message.i know he still keep in touch with me..but i don’t want to know if we continue talking that he finally got a gf.. π
thanks for your soon reply..
October 22, 2014 at 9:26 pm #12900your so nice nikz π
you are a god loving person
October 22, 2014 at 11:39 pm #12912hang in there, you can do this. π @whena create your own thread so people could reply to you. π
October 22, 2014 at 11:47 pm #12916oh sorry im new here hehe thanks
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