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Background:
I fell into the desperation trap when my gf first broke up with me and basically did everything wrong. We lived together 2 years and it was her place so I’m now back with my mum. I think losing my home didn’t help. After reading the articles here I decided to start NC. I literally just stopped messaging her. Officially it’s only been 9 days but when we were communicating before it was kind of friendly and much less than we used to.NC so far allowed me to realise I do love and want her ( i know its still early and I’m working on myself cos I f**king deserve it).
She has now sent this message – “Hi how are you? NAME has invited me to BABY NAME birthday but I’ve ignored it because I presume they don’t know?”
We’re not super close with this couple so she could have just ignored it and they would have been fine. We’ve bailed on other stuff before. I’ve taken the step to inform them now.
What should my reply be?
The classic – “Hey, I don’t want to come off as rude or anything, but I need some time and space to heal from the breakup and focus on myself. This is why I think I think we both shouldn’t speak to each other for a while. I hope you understand.”Do you think she’s used this as an excuse to contact me or genuinely is worried about seeming rude to the couple?
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