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Hello so my ex and I were dating for 3 years. We always had arguments about stupid stuff we broke up before and I promised to change my jealousy and controlling ways. I screwed up when I promised and didn’t change and she 3neded it forsure. I did something so stupid out of anger.. I deleted her email and cancelled her job appointment . I know I’m an idiot. SO she found out and ended it and ignores me constantly. When we talked she said we can’t see eachother or talk ANY time soon. IDK if she’s waiting for me to change or just 2ants to end it comppetely. She told me that she can’t come back and it’s over and I’m devastated. I constantly text her and bug her . I tty to do the NC but I’m so weak! I just don’t know what to do all I want is to talk to her . I’ve told her how sorry I am and how much I regret all the things I’ve done . SHE says she forgives me but still acts mad. It’s been 3 weeks. MY bday is this Friday . IS it bad if she doesn’t bother wishing me happy bday or even wanting to see me. Thanks
@Sdelgado94 You argued, had jealousy issues, cancelled her job assignment, and now you’re pestering her. You treated her very badly before and after the break up! Sounds like you need professional therapy which could help you with your emotions and temperament. You’re totally out of control and the only person who can control your behavior is you. You’re not weak, you’re out of control! Saying sorry really doesn’t help much. It would be better to make self improvements! She might send you a happy birthday, but don’t be surprised if she doesn’t. If you think about it, you know she must be better off without you now. Turn the situation around, how would you feel? Your only chance is no contact for as long as it takes to control your bad and needy impulses.
PS: Happy birthday on Friday:)I know I screwed up bad. I vowed to change for sure I’m seeing a therapist 2 times a week to change myself for good. I don’t want to be that jealous angry guy ever again. It’s not who I am, it’s my anger getting the best of me and I’m getting rid of it if not for her but for whoever I will be with in the future. I just wish I changed sooner . It sucks to be in such regret and pain. . I realize all the things I’ve done were so wrong and childish. I’m trying to cope with all the regret and hurt I’ve caused her. It sucks knowing I hurt the person I wanted to marry. Thank you for your reply
@Sdelgado94 I understand having regrets, but don’t beat yourself up over the way you behaved. It’s the only way you knew how to act and react at the time, but now since you realize how miserable you felt inside and how unhappy you made her feel, you’re seeking help and that’s great!! Eventually you will be a better stronger man:) Wishing you the best..
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