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Need your help. My (34m) ex-gf (33f) found someone else during no contact rule
I adhered to the 30 day no contact rule. We were together for 3 years (2 amazing, 1 rocky). I had to move away (same time zone)
Her (day 0): Doesn’t matter anyway. I’m done.
Her (day 1): If you do anything during this quarantine…watch Tiger King!
Her (1 hour later): (sent funny coronavirus parody video)
Me (2 days later broke rule): i bought your son some stuff before the pandemic. I want to send along with your blow dryer and other items left here.
Her (1 hour later): I dont need those things, especially not right now. That blow dryer is going to cost you a lot to ship!
Her (day 4): You were in my dream last night. How are you doing?
Her (day 5): Sent me a video of her son thanking me for some gifts.
Her (day 22): how are you doing?
Me (day 30): I’m good. I grew a mustache, been working out. (Attached picture of improved physique)
Her (1 hour later): “Glad to hear everything is going well! I’m doing really well too, I actually starting seeing someone and I’m feeling really good about it. Take care. “
Me (minutes later): “why did you text me then?”
Her (minutes later): “You’re not my enemy, I just wanted to make sure you were well.”
Me: (minutes later) “I forgive you. I will always love you. I gave us space to detox to start fresh. But this is the way it was meant to be. The universe told me and it was right.”
Me (hour later): This doesn’t feel right. I know you are mad at me. Are you speaking the truth about moving on? Or are you secretly hoping for me to fight for you? After almost 4 years of dating hearing you moving on after a month is crazy
Me (minutes later): (Attached image of love note I left her in her house from November she hadn’t found yet)
End of conversation (so far).
I know I fucked up by being soft the way I did. But what’s done is done. Her telling me she found someone really hurt (as I think she intended it to). Shows me she is really pissed.
I feel terrible. Do i still have a chance?
TL;DR: she found someone else during no contact. What to do now?
@tezzycrim I’m assuming she broke up with sometime in March or April. What were the reasons?? Why was the last year of the 3 yr relationship rocky?
You wrote:”Her (day 0): Doesn’t matter anyway. I’m done”. Sounds like she was responding to something you initiated.
You kept going on and on even after she was polite enough to ask how you’re doing and that she is dating someone and told you to take care. You asked if she was being truthful, as though you suspect her of lying. You also asked if she was hoping you would fight for her? Really? What a strange thing to say..
The conversations between you two solved nothing (I’m assuming it was by text).
Start no contact again.
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