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May 3, 2015 at 7:36 am #44015
@ellie obviously the real issue is that you two are not communicating well enough cause he dont know how you are feeling at all? I agree with @oshi
@oshi @divinegirl I have no idea how to make her feel that I’m still the right one for herMay 3, 2015 at 7:55 am #44018@Mj I think that’s what we all trying to understand. It must come from her. While on your meeting keep it cool, be yourself, be the one she fell in love with, because you did it before, so you can do it again. I believe she will realize it eventually. After all she is wiling to hangout with you which is already a good progress! Most important is to have confidence and patience.
May 3, 2015 at 8:30 am #44021@oshi I have no idea if her hanging out with me is humouring me or what not..
May 3, 2015 at 8:35 am #44023So what do I do if he doesn’t even text me at all today? I feel that I should give up completely if that ends up being the case because that means something is going on with him. How do I pull away if he does text me?
May 3, 2015 at 10:37 am #44037@Mj I know what you mean, but it’s at least something and a change from before. You have nothing to lose by meeting up with her, it can only get better from here.
@ellie I think you should give him more time before doing anything, wait a bit more and if you see that he really is ignoring you then decide what to do. If he text you then be cool about it and ask him what happened, but without making him feel bad about it, I’m sure that he already feels that way. I think that getting angry at him will only make you seem needy, so try to stay calm and wait for him to explain.
May 3, 2015 at 10:40 am #44040@Oshi But why would he feel bad if he purposely ignored me? That’s what I don’t understand!
May 3, 2015 at 11:23 am #44053@ellie I believe he knows that what he’s doing is not nice so if he cares about you he would feel bad about it.
May 3, 2015 at 11:25 am #44055After everything I told you about how he has been acting and all that, do you think he will ever contact me again?
May 3, 2015 at 11:54 am #44060@ellie Yes because it’s obvious that he still has feelings for you. Maybe he’s acting like this because he takes you for granted or maybe confused about what he wants from the relationship. But I’m sure that if he’d lose you then he will regret it. I think he needs to open his eyes and realize what he might lose. Also could be that he isn’t aware of your feelings and thinking that everything is good, as I said before I think you should tell him how you feel but do it without making it sound like you’re breaking up with him, but in a way that will make him understand and consider his behavior.
May 3, 2015 at 12:09 pm #44062@Oshi So how do I show him he’s losing me (because he is) without being mean about it? I’m honestly still scared to show him my feelings, but I feel that it needs to happen soon or things are just going to get worse for me.
He still isn’t texting me (which he could be asleep), either way he isn’t texting me. Should I basically play this as NC until I hear from him? And then whenever he does decide to contact me, should I act distant and pull back?
May 3, 2015 at 12:16 pm #44064@oshi i really hope it does get better too
@ellie i think you should treat this as NC too, get yourself sorted out in the mean time
May 3, 2015 at 1:01 pm #44071@ellie I agree with Mj. don’t contact him and let him initiate it. When he does contact you keep it cool.
May 3, 2015 at 1:04 pm #44073@Oshi I am giving him 2-3 days. If I hear nothing, I have to say goodbye. This isn’t fair to me…
May 3, 2015 at 5:11 pm #44095My friend just looked at him on some social media and he posted a picture of him drinking at a festival with his mom and sister and then he reposted 2 other things. He was completely ignoring me. With that being said, I have 2 options. To give him a goodbye letter and to straight into NC or to just go straight into NC.
May 3, 2015 at 5:50 pm #44101Guys what do I do? I am so conflicted about this whole thing.
I could also stick around and pull back while he sees my progress.
I have to choose one of these 3 options..
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