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April 22, 2015 at 7:25 pm #42747
@KD I agree with ellie. If he didn’t want anything to do with you then he wouldn’t responed either. And that’s not just a normal response from someone who doesn’t care, it sounds like a response from someone emotional and angry. It’s really not your fault, don’t blame yourself! sounds like he’s still mad about something, maybe he still hasn’t forgot the negative feelings, or could be that he needs more time to heal. I think the best thing to do right now would be to stop contact with him and move on. If you are still not willing to give up on him then try to “move on” for yourself and when he’d regret it then decide what to do.
April 22, 2015 at 7:28 pm #42748100% fully agree with @Oshi. He cant get over crap from the past. So until he decides to fix his own problems, he isn’t ever going to change. That’s all on him. He will live miserably and that is a fact!!!
April 23, 2015 at 2:06 am #42770That’s exactly what I will do. I have blocked his number so I won’t get any messages from him. And if he emails me I’ll just delete it. I feel ok today. Think it was the final push I needed, he’s not the person I thought he was at all. I also think he’s being influenced by one of his mates he’s become quite close to.
April 23, 2015 at 5:45 am #42778@KD chances are he is, and if he is, it’ll make his regret even worse. Just focus on you and don’t look for someone new. Let them find you.
April 23, 2015 at 6:50 am #42785@ellie96 indeed 🙂 I do feel ok about it surprisingly. For the moment anyway lol
April 23, 2015 at 8:41 pm #42856@KD How are you today?
April 24, 2015 at 1:42 am #42879@ellie96 I’m ok thank you actually. It kind of hit me yesterday what he actually said and I had a bit of a wobble. But moved past it. I just can’t believe he has been has harsh as he has. I still think that there is more behind it, I don’t think he just “doesn’t want to see me” there must be a reason. But what that reason is I just don’t know. I’m ok to leave him to it. I think one day he will realise but that day won’t be for a long time, and I think by the time he realises it I won’t actually want him back! Even now, if he said to me now he wants me back, it wouldn’t be an easy decision to make. Not like before when I would have jumped at the chance!
April 24, 2015 at 5:46 am #42883Hi how are you both?
I just wanted to get a few things out and maybe get some advice/opinions from you girls.
Well last night was the first time I’ve seen my ex in nearly 3 months. I had to get copy’s of our old flats bills. When we met and started talking im sure I seen nearly well up she had that look on her face. I asked if she was ok. She said ye she was fine. After continuing to talk she started to say how good I was looking and how big my arms had got (been hitting the gym hard) she was smiling enormously, she couldn’t get the smile off her face, even the way she was looking at me, she looked giddy. We had a good chat for nearly an hour, then I said I had to leave early start. She lent in for a hug and it felt amazing. She held on to me tight. She told me to keep in contact.
What do you girls think, do you think she’s trying to contain her true feelings. I let her down badly, how do I regain her trust?
April 24, 2015 at 6:43 am #42885I think that sounds good. She can obviously see your improvements you’ve made 🙂 she said keep in contact, but I would wait for her to contact you, coz she will!
April 24, 2015 at 8:04 am #42887@Gingerone Sounds good! There is definitely something there! I do think that maybe she’s trying to contain her true feelings, but I’m sure that after a few more meeting she’d open up. But most important stay calm and take is slow!
April 24, 2015 at 10:05 am #42900Hi guys thanks for your input. @kd1988 I’m not sure she would contact me, after our meeting last night im convinced she is trying to block me out because if she gets in contact she might get hurt again. @oshi I’m not sure I will have the chance to meet up with her again if she is trying to deny her feelings then I’m sure she won’t want to meet up
April 24, 2015 at 10:09 am #42901During our convo I also said a work mate had tried to set me up on a double date, I went but I wasn’t int at all. Which is true.
I’m thinking of txt her tomorrow maybe to say thanks for sorting the bills out and it was good to see her. Also I was thinking of saying how nice it was to see her smile again. What do u guys think.
April 24, 2015 at 11:23 am #42907I’m not sure about the whole smile part. Like I’m partial to it!
April 24, 2015 at 12:04 pm #42915April 24, 2015 at 3:08 pm #42939@Gingerone: I think it’s okay to tell her how nice it was but don’t make it seems like you are too excited about it, keep calm, and I think you shouldn’t mention her smile or anything. Play it cool.
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