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March 24, 2015 at 11:18 am #37808
@Mj as far as he is concerned, I am fine (which is the truth) and there has been no mention at all of me wanting him back, I’ve fully accepted the break up etc.
What I am a little concerned about though, is if he doesn’t want to meet because he still has feelings, then he is going to wait until he doesn’t anymore and then it’s going to be too late, he would of moved on. But there isn’t anything I can do about that!
I am gonna go NC now, if he messages me I will reply but keep it to a minimum.
March 24, 2015 at 11:24 am #37809Yeah there’s nothing you can do about that, but have you taken a lot at relationship rewind? There’s apart on how to use text to get him to go on a date with you. Google relationship part 2 should work!
March 24, 2015 at 11:34 am #37811@Mj I did take a look at that yeah. I’ll have another look when I get home. Just want it to be when he is still in a stage of caring. If it goes beyond that then it will be too late!
March 24, 2015 at 11:53 am #37813@KD1988: It sounds better then I expected, he still cares for you, but I think he’s still hurt and that’s why he can’t meet with you right now, which means he still has feelings for you, give him some time to handle his feelings.
My ex also couldn’t meet me few days after the break up, but after some time he agreed.His letter still hasn’t arrived but I’m planning on asking him to meet me again, this weekend a new mall opens up and we are both excited about it, so I thought that maybe this is a good chance, what do you guys think?
March 24, 2015 at 1:00 pm #37820It was better than I thought it would be too. It was the phone call afterwards that helped the most though. And then he text me after our phone call.
I do think he still has feelings. The part im worried about it is that he can’t meet while he still feels that way, so he will wait until those feelings are gone.
I am not going to contact him, but if he contacts me I will reply and keep it to a minimum I think. I don’t know lol.
I think yours sounds like a good idea. No harm in asking is there!March 24, 2015 at 1:07 pm #37821I’m thinking he doesn’t want to meet because if he does he won’t be able to control his feelings for u. So by not meeting he can containe them. I’m thinking that’s why my ex doesn’t want to meet up because if they do maybe there scared we will win them over and there scared we might hurt them again well in my situation anyway. I’m sending my letter tomorrow so she should have it by Friday.
March 24, 2015 at 1:10 pm #37822I like to think that the reason my ex won’t talk to me is because she’s worried that I’ll be able to talk her into changing her mind heh.
I’ve no way to know if that’s true, but I like to think that… Alternatively I think it might be because she feels guilty and doesn’t want to face up to me.
March 24, 2015 at 1:11 pm #37823@gingerone
Yeah I hear ya. And I think that’s probably why too. But I don’t know what to do with that? You’ll feel better once you’ve sent the letter
March 24, 2015 at 1:15 pm #37824@annakis I think your right. She had so much love for me. im hoping she’s staying away because she might want to change her mind but is determined not too and it’s easier if where not around
@Kd1988 I hope so, I’m looking forward to sending it. It’s been on my mind for a while. I just hope she reads itMarch 24, 2015 at 1:16 pm #37825She will read it. She won’t be able not to read it!
I just don’t know what I should do now :/
March 24, 2015 at 1:20 pm #37827@Kd1988 I’m not sure what you can do my friend, back to no contact? Minimal contact? It’s confusing isn’t it. What do u think u should do?
March 24, 2015 at 1:33 pm #37833@KD1988: His feeling can’t change so quickly, it takes a lot of time to forget the one you loved, I think he just needs more time to calm down a bit, maybe he’s still confused and hurt from the break up but doesn’t show it. what I learned from all of this is that it really takes a long time and patience to get your loved one back, sometimes I just want to give up and let go but I realized that it’s not so easy.
Yes for now keep the NC but don’t initiate conversations with him, hope things will get better for you, stay strong!March 24, 2015 at 1:45 pm #37838@oshi @gingerone
Yep minimal contact I think. I won’t be rude if he contacts me but I will try not to contact him for a while I think.
Think I need to do that for me!March 24, 2015 at 4:21 pm #37862@KD1988: I know NC is very hard but yeah it’s mostly for yourself, also it makes you feel better than getting hurt and rejected over and over again.
I’ve just called him. we talked for a while and I asked him if he wants to meet at the new mall this weekend, he said he’s working until evening so we’ll only have one hour to hangout before they close, so he offered to meet next week. also he said that he’ll let me know if he can finish work early that day. And when I asked him how his friends doing he started counting the number of times he met with each friend and described me where they hanged out and such.
Does it mean anything? or maybe i’m just over thinking it..
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