Reconciliation or Just Friends?!

[patricia12]

So far, so good! I’m keeping my fingers crossed too..

[RichBeauty25]

I haven’t heard from him today and I DID NOT reach out. Yes, fingers are still crossed!

[RichBeauty25]

I was watching one of our favorite movies. Is it bad to reach out saying the movie made me think of him?

[patricia12]

Don’t reach out to him about the movie. Next time he texts, when you reply, you could include the movie thing..

[RichBeauty25]

Oh no! ?? I sent it earlier today, however, he did reply later with a positive response.

[patricia12]

Oh dear:( I’m glad there was a positive response, but please don’t smother him with texts. Remember, he wants to know you’ve changed.
Let him be the one to contact you next time.

[RichBeauty25]

Ok, I’m going to train myself not to do so. I guess those urges become hard when I’m sitting back reminiscing. I’ll definitely get more disciplined in NOT texting unless he texts first.
Now the question…do I respond to the positive text or leave it be?

[patricia12]

Leave it, unless he asked a question which needs an answer!

[RichBeauty25]

Ok will do! Thank you so much Patricia.

[RichBeauty25]

Hey Patricia,
I don’t think my ex wants me back. I haven’t heard from him since Monday (and yesterday but I initiated that convo). Outside of that there’s been no contact for another date and he only text no calls. I’m thinking he’s just moved on and this hanging on to hope is pointless.
What should I do? Am I giving up too soon?

[patricia12]

Hi RichBeauty, He contacted you Monday then 2 days later on Wednesday, you contacted him and he replied. Today is only Thursday and you’re worried already? I mentioned this before, but I don’t think he believes you’ve changed regarding the smothering and I think he’s waiting and watching and taking it slow. Please prove to him you aren’t the smothering type by backing off and letting him reach out to you first. Don’t give up, just be more patient!

[RichBeauty25]

Hey Patricia,

You’re right. I guess I’m just expecting things to go back to normal with us talking everyday but that’s what caused the relationship to end and when it doesn’t I think the worse (another thing I must work on). Being patient is NOT easy…lol ??
I have not contacted him and don’t plan on it. I’m keeping busy with my schedule and life. Man, I hope everything comes together. Thanks for that reassurance and wake up call!

[RichBeauty25]

Hey Patricia,

Just an update… He hasn’t contacted me and I definitely have not reached out. I’m doing what you said and let him come to me. My question when is there a sign that he’s moved on? I don’t want to wait around forever. In the meantime I have went on dates and still enjoying life.

[patricia12]

I’m glad you’ve gone out to enjoy life, but don’t be discouraged. As I said, you were way too smothering and he didn’t like it! He wants to know that you won’t be that way again. And you’re proving it now by not chasing him and contacting him first. The only way to know for sure if he has moved on, or wants to move on, is if he tells you.

[RichBeauty25]

Hey Patricia,

It’s been a week and I haven’t heard from him. Is that a good thing or bad? And no, I haven’t reached out.

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